Exploring Reconciliation


We hate the fact that you’ve been through the pain that led you to where you are now. But, we are so happy that you are considering the possibility of putting the marriage back together. This course will help you explore reconciliation and learn what TO do and what NOT to do at each stage of reconciliation.



Maybe you’re considering reconciling a marriage that’s in major trouble. Or maybe, just maybe, you’ve already started what you think is the reconciliation process.

We understand that difficulties occurred in your marriage. Congratulations on exploring the possibility of renewing your relationship! Coming back together takes work. It takes time. It takes healing. It takes intention from both husband and wife. We would like to help you forgive the past, trust again, and have a stronger marriage than ever before.



There’s actually a system to use for reconciliation that most people don’t understand. And we want to share that system with you.


How The Course Works

Exploring Reconciliation will be led by Dr. Joe Beam (Marriage Helper Founder and Chair), Kimberly Holmes (Marriage Helper CEO), and Jim Pourteau (Director of Marriage Helper Coaching). This course is broken up into eight sections, and you can work through the content at your own pace! If you follow this system, you dramatically increase the likelihood of putting your marriage back together. The main mistake couples make is operating under old information to try and fix their situation. Rather, you need to create a NEW Marriage.

In this course, you will learn what TO do and what NOT to do at each stage of reconciliation.


  • Introduction
  • Easing Into Reconciliation
  • Explore Part 1 – Tough Conversations
  • Explore Part 2 – Understanding Your Spouse
  • Explain Part 1 – Negotiation
  • Explain Part 2 – Compromise
  • Engage – Making A Decision
  • Excel – True Vision



Exploring Reconciliation is a system and we want you to follow the system as it is designed for the best chance of success.

If anything works, this will.

We’re not guaranteeing that it’s a magic potion. That if you do exactly what we tell you to do, everything’s going to be easy. However, we guarantee that this is best shot you can give your relationship for true reconciliation.



An incredible testimony from one of our Marriage Helper Community Members, RB:

“Today, we are reconciled for roughly 2.5 years. As I’ve heard Dr. Beam say more than once, reconciliation was like getting into the shallow end of a pool and working your way to the deep end. We did that. Each of us slowly tested the waters as reconciliation progressed. Today, we ‘tread water’ in the deep end on a regular basis. Bear in mind, this was a woman who said ‘I’m done’ repeatedly. She said, ‘I don’t want to give you false hope’ anytime we had nice conversations. She also could never ever see herself having feelings for me ever again.

If I had to go through it all over again to have the marriage I have today, I’d do it, in a heartbeat. I would do every sleepless night where I tried crying myself to sleep. Why? Because what I have today is something I never ever thought was even possible. I often say I have the marriage that I never knew I ever wanted. First and foremost, she’s my best friend. We share things with each other now that we’d never dreamed of sharing together before. We both know what the horsemen look like and how to avoid them. We both know each other’s strengths and weaknesses and how to leverage those for the better of our marriage.

Why do I share? Because I want YOU to know that there IS hope, always! Change IS possible. When you think your spouse doesn’t notice the change, believe me, they DO. When you blow it, they notice. When you own that you blew it, they notice. Consistency and time are key. PIES and SMART contact are things we should have learned in school, but it’s better late than never. It IS possible for beauty to arise from the ashes of a broken marriage and for a diamond to come out of it.”



  • What do I get with the Exploring Reconciliation Course?
    • Once you register for the Exploring Reconciliation Course, you will receive the following:
      • A secure username and password for you to access the video series at your convenience.
      • Your own access to the course complete with 8 modules of lessons, guided exercises, and assessments to navigate you and your spouse through exploring reconciliation and the reconciliation process.


  • What is the difference between the Exploring Reconciliation Course, the Save My Marriage Course, and the Marriage Helper Workshop?
    • The Exploring Reconciliation course is an online video series that deals SPECIFICALLY with providing guidance to help you and your spouse explore whether you are ready to make a decision to reconcile your marriage, and from there the steps to go through to do this. This video series is intended for any marriage where both people are willing to work on the marriage. It is the PERFECT follow up to the Marriage Helper Turnaround workshop and the Save My Marriage Course, or for new friends of Marriage Helper.The Save My Marriage Course is a 10-week online course for the spouse wanting to save their marriage and their spouse is checked out. That series talks much more about a larger range of things you can do to save your marriage when your spouse will not come back. It focuses on changing yourself, making a plan for how to proceed in communicating with your spouse, and more. Click here for more information.The Marriage Helper Turnaround Workshop is our top of the line marriage help for marriages in crisis. If your marriage is on the brink of divorce, this is the workshop for you. This workshop holds a success rate at saving 3 out of 4 marriages.


  • Why should I trust you?
    • Great question. We know that you’ve probably been hurt by others in the past who promise to save your marriage, only to find information that doesn’t work or drives your spouse further away. I understand that you’re hesitant. I hope you understand our heart. At Marriage Helper, we seek to save marriages and strengthen families by teaching principles that you can apply to your specific situation.Every marriage is different. Therefore, there’s no 3-step plan that is going to work for every single marriage. We understand this. That’s why we have created the Exploring Reconciliation Video Series in such a way that it teaches you principles that will work for every situation. Then, when it gets to the nitty-gritty specifics of your situation, we aren’t going to leave you hanging. We will do our best to help you navigate the specifics of your situation as well.We’ve been helping marriages for 20 years. We’d love to help yours, too.


  • Is this course right for me?
    • This course is right for you if: you and your spouse are considering reconciling, you may be in a situation where your spouse is back, you’re talking more, you’re getting on better and they are interested in looking into working on the marriage. You don’t need to be ready to make a commitment to reconciliation yet – this will help you walk through this decision and the things to consider to do that.  Even if you or your spouse are hesitant, you’re saying “I don’t know if things can actually change”, or “I’ve been hurt before and I don’t know I can do this.” This course is also for you if you both are committed to reconcile but don’t know the best steps to take to walk through it. This course is not right for you if:  your spouse isn’t yet on board and willing to at least consider the possibility of reconciling the marriage, whether they are still checked out of the marriage, not interested in talking to you etc. If this is your current situation, the best thing you can do right now is look at our Save My Marriage Course – a course designed for the spouse who wants to save their marriage.


  • Why do I need a course? Can’t I reconcile on my own?
    • Reconciliation is a difficult and bumpy road. For the first time ever we are providing a proven process and framework, so that you and your spouse can learn to navigate this road with the absolute best possible way forward.  We guide you through a system called the 5 E’s, so both of you can explore know what you are getting into with the reconciliation process and take time to process what you both want and need to move forward in a healthy way. We give you a framework of questions to ask each other and items to discuss and guide you to a point of both making a decision if you are willing to move forward and what that would look like.
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