Get Personalized Guidance to Navigate Your Marriage Issues
Marriage coaching at Marriage Helper is built on proven, research-based principles developed by Dr. Joe Beam and his team of relationship experts. Our coaches are specially trained to help you uncover the root issues in your marriage—not just surface-level conflict—and guide you toward lasting change. Whether you’re facing communication struggles, emotional distance, or deep wounds like betrayal, our approach focuses on practical tools and compassionate guidance that restore hope and connection.
While you don’t have to be a member to begin coaching, many couples find that combining coaching with our Workshops or Marriage Helper Membership deepens their progress. Coaching gives you individualized direction, while our programs and resources help you keep the momentum going. Wherever you are right now—whether your spouse is all-in, unsure, or has already left—our team will meet you there and help you take the next right step toward rebuilding your relationship.
Marriage Helper coaching connects you with a trained marriage coach who offers personalized guidance, practical strategies, and encouragement to help you save and strengthen your relationship. Coaching is available exclusively to active members.
How much is coaching?
Our 1:1 coaching is only available to purchase either if you are a member of our Save My Marriage monthly program or as a Workshop client. We restrict this so that you have all the resources needed to make the most of your coaching sessions. You can find out more about our Save My Marriage program here, or our Workshop programs here. Once you are a member our sessions cost $145 per session.
How long are coaching sessions?
Each coaching session is 50 minutes long. You are able to participate with video or just audio.
How do rescheduling and cancellations work?
There are no refunds on coaching sessions. You may reschedule your session any time prior to 48 hours before the session by using the "Reschedule" link inside the email you received confirming your appointment.
Can't I just get advice from friends or family?
I’ll be honest with you, your family and friends love you- and want the very best for you! Because of this, their advice (although well intended) usually does not provide the objectivity you need.
And, much of what they say may be rooted in their own experiences or experiences they’ve heard from others... and this is why getting help from an outside, unbiased perspective can help so much!
A marriage helper coach will give you objective feedback based on thousands of hours of working with marriages like yours.
What specific things can coaches help with?
Here are some more specific things Marriage Helper Coaches help with:
Needing guidance in where to start in your journey to save your marriage
Looking for help in how to get your spouse to attend one of our workshops
Grieving a separation or divorce
Trying to get past the pain of infidelity
Dealing with guilt
Forgiveness
Wanting to become a better version of yourself
Needing help with how to reconcile
Every coach will walk alongside you and help you in the best way he/she possibly can!
When are coaches available?
Our marriage coaches are available most weekdays during U.S. Central Time, with select evening slots to accommodate different schedules. Sessions are easy to book, and many clients are able to schedule within just a few days—sometimes as soon as the next day—so you can get timely support without long waits.
Pick a coach who's actually been in your seat.
Nine certified Marriage Helper coaches ready for marriage coaching. Most of them sat where you're sitting now and worked their way out. They know the playbook because they ran it. Pick the coach, pick the time, get on the call.
If you're the only one fighting for your marriage right now, you don't have to figure this out alone.
Most people who book marriage coaching with us aren't looking for theory. They're looking for the next thing to say. The next thing to do when their spouse walks in the door this week. The thing that won't make this worse.
That's what coaching is for. It's a fifty-minute call with someone trained in the seven-step framework Dr. Joe Beam refined across thirty years and more than 50,000 couples since Marriage Helper began in 1994. Your coach can help you see, plainly, the next right thing to try this week and the patterns to step away from.
You don't need your spouse on the call. You don't need to have it figured out. You don't even need to know what to ask. The coach will know.
Coaching is not therapy. And for a marriage in crisis, that matters.
We respect therapy. We refer to it often. But if your marriage is on fire right now, the question isn't "why does this hurt." It's "what do I do tomorrow." That's a different question, and it needs a different tool.
What therapy does well
Diagnosing and healing the past.
A licensed therapist is the right person if you're processing trauma, untangling a long-running pattern from your family of origin, or working through a clinical diagnosis. The work is exploratory. The pace is weekly. The aim is insight.
Most therapists are trained to be neutral. They will not direct you. That's not the job.
What Marriage Helper coaching does
Guiding you to the next right thing this week.
Our coaches give you direct, behavioral guidance you can act on right after the call. They know the seven-step framework cold. They know what works when your spouse won't talk, when an affair just surfaced, when you've slipped into limerence with someone else, when you've already filed papers and you're trying to undo it.
You can do coaching alone, even if your spouse won't participate. You can run it alongside a therapist. And the people doing it have lived through a version of what you're going through. They don't have to imagine it.
Traditional therapy
Marriage Helper coaching
Primary aim
Insight into why you are the way you are.
What to try this week. Behavioral, specific.
Format
Weekly 50-minute sessions over months.
50-minute calls, paced to the crisis. Weekly while acute, then taper.
Both spouses needed
Usually required.
Not required. Most clients start alone.
Built for crisis
Built for general couples work.
Built for affairs, separation, papers filed, and standing-alone spouses.
Direct advice
Therapist stays neutral by training.
Coach guides you to the next right thing and the patterns to step away from.
Price
Typically $150 to $250 per session.
$145 per 50-minute session. No membership.
Two ways to work with us. Pick the one that fits.
We built coaching to be easy to start and easy to leave. No long commitment, no membership requirement to book a session.
One coach. The one you pick.
One-on-one coaching is the fastest way in. Fifty minutes on a call with a coach who knows the seven-step framework cold and has lived a version of what you're walking through.
You bring the situation. They bring the playbook. You'll leave with clear next steps for this week and the patterns to step away from today. Same coach every time, no membership required. Reschedule up to 48 hours before.
If you'd rather work the framework alongside a few other spouses in the same spot, the Lab is built for that. Six people per cohort, same coach every week for eight weeks, recorded if you miss a live session.
Includes the full Marriage Helper App: the complete toolkit, daily check-ins, progress trackers, and a 24/7 community for the late nights when you need a real human to steady you and point to the next right step.
The people you'd actually be talking to. All nine of them.
Every Marriage Helper coach is certified through our program and trained on the seven-step frameworkDr. Joe Beam refined over three decades. Most of them came to us as clients first. When you book a session, you pick the coach yourself, by face, by story, by fit.
Coach since 2021
Nathan
Found Marriage Helper in 2019 after infidelity hit his own marriage. Coached for two years before he became a coach.
"With Nathan, you get a supportive friend who reminds you you're not alone, and a mentor who keeps pushing your growth."
Infidelity recovery / Personal growth
Nathan discovered Marriage Helper in the fall of 2019 after infidelity affected his marriage. He received coaching himself for over two years and knows firsthand the value a coach brings to someone committed to saving their marriage.
With Nathan, you'll find both a supportive friend who reminds you that you're not alone and a mentor who encourages your personal growth.
Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Reconciled with her husband after he asked for divorce amid an affair.
"Jamie holds the clinical lens and the lived experience in the same hand. Most clients say they feel both seen and steered."
Affairs / Limerence / Family dynamics
Jamie discovered Marriage Helper in January 2021 when her husband told her he wanted a divorce in the midst of an affair. She and her husband reconciled after attending the workshop in April 2021.
Jamie is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor with experience working with children, adolescents, and families since 2006. She has also studied Substance Use Disorders and addiction, which informs how she works with couples in crisis.
Came to us after discovering his wife's affair. Walked through divorce proceedings, financial collapse, controlling patterns. Four years reconciled.
"Scott has worked nearly every role inside Marriage Helper. He understands what a client's full experience looks like, start to finish."
Affair recovery / Finances / Control patterns
Scott found Marriage Helper after discovering his wife's affair. Along the way, they faced controlling behaviors, a spending addiction, financial instability, and divorce proceedings. They are now four years into reconciliation.
Scott has worked in a range of roles within Marriage Helper and understands the entire client experience from start to finish. He coaches with empathy for the spouse who's trying to hold a marriage and a household together at the same time.
37 years working with families in crisis. Witnessed Marriage Helper save his friends' marriage after a devastating blow.
"Vinny keeps clients focused on the behaviors that move a marriage back toward reconciliation, week after week."
Family crisis / Behavior coaching
Vinny witnessed Marriage Helper save his close friends' marriage after a devastating blow. That experience led him into the work himself. He brings 37 years of experience walking alongside families in crisis.
Vinny will help you stay focused on the behaviors that guide your relationship toward reconciliation, week after week, even when the change feels small.
Master's in professional counseling. Lived through divorce a decade ago, remarried last year. Based in Nashville.
"Meredith builds a safe space for the spouse who's barely holding on, and gives them strategies and hope they can actually use."
Divorce recovery / Remarriage / Empathy work
Meredith left a corporate career to earn a master's degree in professional counseling. She experienced divorce a decade ago and remarried last year. She lives in the Nashville area.
Meredith's primary passion is creating a safe haven for struggling spouses and couples, offering empathy, practical strategies, and, most crucially, hope.
37 years in marriage enrichment. Guidance grounded in faith, wisdom, and direct compassion.
"Brian helps couples restore hope, rebuild trust, and strengthen the marital bond that's still there under the rubble."
Marriage enrichment / Faith-grounded / Trust
Brian brings over 37 years of experience in marriage enrichment, with professional guidance grounded in faith, wisdom, and compassion.
Brian guides couples through restoring hope, rebuilding trust, and strengthening the marital bonds that hold them together, even when those bonds feel almost gone.
Attended the workshop in 2018 mid-affair, planning to leave. Ended the affair, reconciled with her husband Marcos, and reshaped her own marriage.
"Elisa coaches from both sides. She has been the spouse in the affair and the spouse who chose to come back."
Affair recovery / Both perspectives
Elisa attended the 2018 Marriage Helper Workshop reluctantly. At the time, she was having an affair and planned to leave her husband Marcos. The workshop changed her perspective.
Elisa ended her affair, and she and Marcos worked to repair and strengthen their marriage. Today, Elisa helps other couples by using her own experience to connect with people walking through what she walked through.
Separated in 2012. Attended the workshop with Ruth three times across separation, divorce, and engagement. Now in their second marriage to each other.
"Scott has been the reluctant spouse and the standing spouse. Few coaches understand both seats this well. Coaches in English and Spanish."
Separation / Remarriage / Bilingual coaching
Scott discovered Marriage Helper in 2012 after separating from his wife Ruth. He and Ruth attended the workshop three times together: in 2014 before divorcing, in 2017 as a divorced couple exploring reconciliation, and in 2018 as a newly engaged couple.
Scott and Ruth are now in their second marriage to each other. Scott brings the wisdom and experience of being both a reluctant spouse and a standing spouse. He coaches in English and Spanish.
20 years in pastoral ministry. Brings encouragement, empowerment, and a relational style honed over two decades.
"Micheal opens a pathway to health across heart, soul, mind, body, and the relationships you care about most."
Pastoral guidance / Leadership / Empowerment
Micheal brings 20 years of pastoral ministry experience and a passion for helping people discover that true hope and real change is possible. He emphasizes encouragement and empowerment, and is highly relational and skilled in leadership development.
His desire is to provide clients a pathway to overall health and well-being in their heart, soul, mind, body, and relationships.
Not Accepting New Clients
A new program from Marriage Helper
The Coaching Lab.
Eight weeks of becoming the spouse your marriage needs.
Most marriage programs put you on a 500-person Zoom and hand you generic advice. The Lab is the opposite. Six people per group. The same coach every week. Eight weeks of work you can actually finish.
Each week, a Marriage Helper coach teaches one tool: how to calm down when your spouse pulls away, how to communicate without making it worse, how to set boundaries that hold. Then your small group works through it together, in real time, with the coach in the room.
You also get the Marriage Helper App for the full eight weeks: the complete toolkit, daily check-ins, progress trackers, and a 24/7 community area for the moments at midnight when you need a real human to steady you and point to the next right step.
It's built for the spouse who's ready to do the work, alone if they have to be. No spouse buy-in required. Recordings are available if you miss a live session.
$797Full eight-week program. Pay in full or split with Klarna or Affirm.
Coaching is for you if any of this sounds familiar.
Your spouse just told you they want out, and you have no idea what to do this week, let alone next.
You found out about an affair, or you suspect one, and every conversation you try to have makes it worse.
You're the only one fighting for this marriage. Your spouse won't read the books, take the call, or come to the workshop. You need a plan that works alone.
You're already in therapy, but no one is guiding you to the specific moves for this week. You need a coach.
You went through our 3-Day Workshop, and you want a coach to help you keep running the plays at home.
You're rebuilding trust after a long break, and you need someone in your corner to call when things wobble.
Common questions about coaching.
Six quick answers before you book.
No. Most clients start coaching alone, and many never bring their spouse onto the call at all. Marriage Helper coaching is built around what one spouse can do to shift the marriage, even when the other one is unwilling or angry or already gone.
Your coach will spend the first part of the call understanding where your marriage actually is right now: what just happened, who said what, what you've already tried. Then they'll help you map out a short list of next steps to try this week and patterns to step away from today. Fifty minutes total.
Therapy is excellent at exploring why you are the way you are. Coaching is built to guide you to the next right thing this week. Our coaches walk you through the seven-step framework Dr. Joe Beam has refined over thirty years and help you see the moves that actually work in your situation. You can do both at once. Many of our clients do.
Scroll back up to the coach grid and read who fits your situation. Affair recovery, separation, faith-grounded coaching, pastoral support, Spanish-language coaching. Each coach brings a specific story and a specific specialty. Pick whoever you'd actually want on the other end of the call. You can switch coaches later if it isn't the right fit.
If you want one-on-one attention on your exact situation, book a $145 coaching session and pick the coach who fits. If you'd rather work through a structured eight-week curriculum alongside five other spouses in the same boat, the Coaching Lab is built for that. Many clients do a session as a diagnostic, then enroll in the next Lab cohort. You don't have to choose right now.
Tell us. We'll match you with a different coach for your next session. Marriage Helper coaching is meant to feel like the right person across the table, and we'd rather move you than have you stop.
One call. One coach. One plan for the week ahead.
If your marriage is in crisis, marriage coaching is usually the next right thing. Book a session, pick the coach who fits, and find out what it is.
Coach since 2021
