When every conversation with your spouse feels like a landmine. Tuesday, you get the words that defuse it.
If you are still talking to your spouse but every conversation feels like a landmine, this is for you. In two hours live, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes walks you through SMART Contact: what to say, what to stop saying, and how to stop pushing away a spouse who is already pulling back.
If any of this is you, Tuesday is for you.
You have stopped trusting yourself around your own spouse.
You regulate. You pick your words. You try harder than you ever have. And somehow it keeps backfiring, they get quieter, the distance grows, and you lie awake sure you said the wrong thing again.
Here is the part no one tells you. In a crisis, your instincts turn against you. The moves that feel like fighting for your marriage are the exact ones pushing your spouse away, no matter how right they feel in the moment. Sometimes it is not even what you say. It is what you have stopped saying.
It is not a character flaw. It is what a crisis does to all of us, and it is fixable the moment you can see it.
I cried. I pleaded. I begged. Every time he pulled back, I amped it up, sure that if I could just reach him one more time, he would stay. All of it felt like fighting for my marriage. All of it pushed him further away. What turned it around was not trying harder. It was learning what to do instead.
Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes, on her own marriage
That is exactly what she hands you, live, on Tuesday.
Two hours. Exactly what to say next.
You will walk out knowing what to say, what to stop, and how to reconnect without pushing harder or going cold.
- The handful of moves that feel like fighting for your marriage and quietly do the opposite.
- The words that draw a spouse back, and the ones that quietly push them away.
- What to do the moment you feel the urge to explain it one more time.
- How to stop chasing, without going cold.
- How to turn a push into a pull, so trying less actually gets you further.
- What to say when the drop-off line is the only real conversation you get.
The one thing we can promise, with no hedge.
Your spouse starts talking to you again.
We have watched it hold across situations that could not look more different. When you change how you make contact, the other person re-engages. It is the one result we will say out loud with nothing attached, because we have seen it too many times to hedge. 32 years, more than 25,000+ couples.
It helped me make changes in me. Then I used SMART Contact and got my spouse to the couples workshop, and we reconciled because of the changes I made. You can do it too.
Here is what you get.
Questions.
Is it really live?
Yes. Two hours live with Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes, with time to bring your own situation and get real answers. Not a recording, not a pitch.
What if I cannot make it live?
You will get the recording, so you will not miss it. Come live if you can, that is where you can ask about your own marriage. Either way, the recording and the SMART Contact Toolkit are yours to keep.
Will I have to talk or be on camera?
No. You will not be asked to speak or turn your camera on at any point. Come as you are, listen, and take what you need. You can type a question if you want to, or stay completely private.
What is the SMART Contact Toolkit?
The complete self-paced toolkit on how to reconnect with a spouse who is pulling away, without pushing harder or going silent. Yours to keep, with lifetime access. For-ev-er.
My spouse and I barely talk without it turning into a fight. Is this still for me?
That is exactly who this is for. If you are still in contact at all, even if every conversation is a minefield, this is built to change what happens the next time you talk.
Do I need my spouse to be there?
No. In fact, most people who come do not. SMART Contact is about what you say and do, and that is the part you can actually control. You will get value from this whether your spouse ever knows you were here or not.
Is this faith-based?
We are a faith-based organization, and we do not hide that. What we teach is grounded in research and real psychology, so it works whether faith is central to your life or not. You are welcome here either way.
What if it is not worth it?
If this turns out to be the biggest waste of your time and you hated every minute of it (no one ever does), we will refund you, no questions asked, and you still keep the SMART Contact Toolkit. There is genuinely no way to lose here.
How do I join?
Register below and we send you everything you need to join, plus a reminder before we go live.
You do not have to get the next conversation right alone.
Two hours live with Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes, plus the SMART Contact Toolkit to keep. $99, this Tuesday.
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