Your spouse wants out. You don't.
This is the course for that exact moment. Twelve lessons from Dr. Joe Beam on the moves that backfire, the work that pulls a spouse back, and what to do when nothing seems to be working. Built for the spouse who is doing this alone.
What it actually teaches.
When a spouse pulls away, the things that feel like fighting for the marriage are almost always the things that push them further out the door: begging, pleading, explaining one more time, checking their phone, recruiting family to talk sense into them. The Save My Marriage Course starts by naming those pushes and getting you to stop them, because no rebuilding works while the pushing continues.
Then it teaches the pulls: how people actually fall in love and fall back into it (the LovePath), how to grow the four kinds of attraction that draw a spouse toward you (PIES), how to be a safe place for your spouse without becoming a doormat, and how to set real boundaries without ultimatums. It covers the hard specifics most marriage advice skips: active affairs and limerence, what to tell your children, what to do when nothing seems to move, and how to know the difference between a marriage in pain and a marriage causing damage.
What's inside.
Each lesson is a 30 to 60 minute video teaching, paired with a workbook of exercises and screening tools. Self-paced, on any device, yours for life.
- 1. The Underlying Principle Pushes and pulls: the five kinds of pushes, and which ones you have to stop first.
- 2. Five Things Not To Do Begging, pleading, snooping, overreacting, and pulling in family. Why each one backfires.
- 3. Three Things To Do Believing in yourself, documenting your commitment, and persistence that does not push.
- 4. The LovePath System The four-step path people follow into love, with the PIES underneath it.
- 5. Acceptance, Part 1 Becoming a safe place for your spouse without becoming a doormat.
- 6. Acceptance, Part 2 Non-judgmental listening, accepting the person without accepting the behavior, and how to confront.
- 7. Control The four types of controlling behavior, and how to recognize it in your marriage and in yourself.
- 8. Affairs and Limerence The three kinds of affairs, and limerence: the temporary brain state that feels like real love.
- 9. When Things Aren't Progressing The valley phase, STOPs and COREs, and when an intervention makes sense.
- 10. When Children Are Involved Age-appropriate honesty, protecting your kids, and parenting through the crisis.
- 11. Answers to Important Questions Intimacy with a straying spouse, attorneys, inviting your spouse to a workshop, and the five steps of reconciliation.
- 12. When To Move On The difference between pain and damage, and how to move forward in a healthy way if it ends.
Who it's for.
This is for you if
- Your spouse has pulled away, wants out, or says it is over, and you are not ready to give up.
- There is an affair or limerence in the picture and you need to know what actually works.
- You have tried counseling and books, and nothing has moved.
- People keep telling you to walk away, and you want to fight for it the right way.
It is not for you if
- You are looking for ways to pressure or manipulate your spouse back. That is a push, and we teach the opposite.
- Your situation involves abuse. The course is not built for that, and we keep a list of referral organizations that are.
- You want motivation rather than a framework. This is work, not a pep talk.
Taught by someone who has been on both sides.
Dr. Joe Beam did not learn this in a classroom first. He left his wife Alice for another woman, divorced, and watched that relationship collapse exactly the way the research says it does. Three years later, he and Alice remarried. The frameworks he teaches came out of that road back, three decades of research, and tens of thousands of couples since.
It works differently when your teacher has stood where you are standing.
Read Joe's story →What couples say on Google.
The twelve-week Save My Marriage Course was amazing to walk through and complete and I can’t wait to do more of their courses, as I learned so much.
Even in my case I saw that smart contact and PIES worked. I will apply the principles in my future relationship.
It’s user friendly and All of the information is there to help you succeed in saving your marriage. It works! It takes effort, the tools and the support are there if you need it.
One payment. Yours for life.
- The complete framework, taught start to finish
- Lifetime access, streaming on any device
- Self-paced, rewatch as your situation changes
- One payment, no subscription
Want it live with our team instead? See the workshop.
Questions.
- Can this work if I am the only one trying?
- That is exactly who the course is built for. Every lesson assumes your spouse is not participating yet. The work starts with what one willing spouse can do: stopping the pushes that drive a partner further away and building the pulls that draw them back.
- How is this different from the toolkits?
- A toolkit goes deep on one single issue. This is the complete framework, twelve lessons deep, with the workbook and the exact tools, covering the whole situation from the first push to reconciliation. If you want the whole system, this is it.
- How long do I have access?
- For life. Everything is self-paced, streams on any device, and stays yours, so you can rewatch lessons as your situation changes.
- How is this different from the workshop?
- The course is self-paced and you work it alone, on your own schedule, for a fraction of the price. The workshop is three live days with our team, and it goes deeper than any course can. Many people start with the course and attend a workshop later.