Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes
Chief Executive Officer, Marriage Helper
Kimberly leads Marriage Helper today, carrying forward the work her father, Dr. Joe Beam, began. She holds a PhD, and her research centers on a question most marriage advice skips: what actually draws two people back toward each other.
The work she leads
Most people in crisis are told to communicate better or try harder. Kimberly’s research goes underneath that, into attraction: the physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual pull that holds a marriage together, and that can be rebuilt when it fades. She teaches that attraction is not something you either have or do not have. It is something you can grow on purpose, even from a hard place.
Under her leadership, Marriage Helper has kept its founding promise: to help the couples other people give up on, including the ones where only one spouse is willing to begin. She teaches alongside her father across the free mini-course, the courses, the Coaching Lab, and the Couples Workshop, and she hosts the Relationship Radio podcast, where she answers the questions hurting spouses are actually asking.
In her own words
I’ll tell you why I actually do this.
Back in 2013, I thought my marriage was done. I knew it was done. It was the worst weekend of my life, truly, and I still don’t love talking about it, because it hurts to remember even now, even though Rob is my best friend today.
And then it came back.
The strange part is that it was the same research my dad, Dr. Joe Beam, had been teaching for years. I just didn’t think it could possibly work on me. So when we tell you your marriage can be saved, even the one that looks finished, I’m not saying it off a clipboard. I’m saying it because it happened to mine.
Here’s the thing. You know your situation better than I ever could, and I’m not gonna pretend I know your whole story. What I have is the research, and I have my own marriage, and I have watched this work for thousands of people who were sure they were the exception.
In the middle of all of it, my mom did something I have never forgotten. She didn’t try to fix me or talk me out of how I felt. She just sat down next to me and said, I’m not gonna say anything, I’m just gonna sit here with you. That is kind of what we want to do for you here. Sit with you, and then show you what actually works.
So here is what I want you to do. Start with one honest step. Not the whole thing at once. Just the next right thing.
Kimberly
Where to find her
Kimberly teaches every week on the Marriage Helper YouTube channel and on the Relationship Radio podcast. She also shares her research on attraction and rebuilding marriages day to day on Instagram, where you can follow along between episodes.
Follow @kimberlybeamholmes on InstagramIf your marriage is in crisis right now, the best place to begin is the free mini-course for your situation.