How To Work on Your PIES When There Are Obstacles
The short answer
Obstacles like kids at home, a spouse’s unpredictable work hours, and no intimacy can make working on your PIES (physical, intellectual, emotional, spiritual) feel hard, but they can be overcome. In this episode, Dr. Joe and Dr. Kimberly answer a wife who still lives with her husband and feels unmotivated, and they talk through how to overcome those obstacles.
Key takeaways
- You can work on your PIES (physical, intellectual, emotional, spiritual) even if you and your spouse still live in the same house.
- Busy kids, a spouse’s unpredictable work hours, and a lack of intimacy are common obstacles to working on yourself.
- Feeling unmotivated when there is no intimacy at home is a real struggle, and this episode talks through how to overcome it.
In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam and Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes dig into “How To Work on Your PIES When There Are Obstacles.” Press play above to hear the full conversation.
Want to work on becoming more attractive, but you feel like there are so many obstacles in your way? Kids, spouse living at home, job, and more?
Here’s the question that we received:
“My situation is unique in the sense that my husband and I are not separated. We are in the same house. When it comes to working on my PIES, it’s hard at times because we have kids, my husband’s hours are all over the place, and I am so busy with our daughter. It’s also hard because there’s no intimacy…so I’m not very motivated to work on my PIES. How do I do the PIES when are are other obstacles?”
We’ll talk about how to overcome these in this episode.
Common questions
Can I work on my PIES if my spouse and I still live together?
Yes. The question in this episode comes from a wife who is not separated and still shares a house with her husband, and Dr. Joe and Dr. Kimberly talk about how she can keep working on her PIES.
What does PIES stand for?
PIES stands for physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual, the four areas of attraction you can work on in yourself to become more attractive.
How do I stay motivated to work on myself when there is no intimacy in my marriage?
That is the struggle the listener in this episode describes: with no intimacy at home, she isn’t very motivated to work on her PIES. Dr. Joe and Dr. Kimberly talk about how to overcome that, along with busy kids and a spouse’s unpredictable hours.