Tue Oct 27 6 to 9 pm CT
The One About You
What is it like to be married to me?
- The four kinds of attraction, and your score
- How you show up at your best and under stress
- One change you can make, whatever your spouse does
MarriageHelper The One Where Your Marriage Goes From “What Happened to Us?” to “Now I Get It.”
For married people who used to be best friends and now feel like roommates. Or worse. Two live nights with Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes.
- Tue + Wed, October 27 and 28
- 6 to 9 pm CT
- Live on Zoom
If your marriage were a sitcom right now, what would this week’s episode be called?
- The One Where We Only Talk About the Kids
- The One Where We Sleep on Opposite Edges of the Bed
- The One Where “I’m Fine” Means I’m Not Fine
- The One With the Same Fight, Again
- The One Where We’re Basically Roommates
- The One Where You Wonder If You Married the Wrong Person
Most marriages don’t blow up. They drift.
From roommates to “I’m worried we won’t make it,” this is for you.
The thing you loved became the thing that drives you crazy.
Your spouse’s most annoying trait is probably the reason you married them. Flip the channel.
- “I love how ambitious he is.” “Everything matters more than I do.”
- “I love how much she cares.” “She is always on me.”
- “He’s so laid back.” “I have to carry everything.”
- “I love her independence.” “She doesn’t need me.”
- “She’s so organized.” “She has a system for EVERYTHING.”
They may not be a different person. Something else changed.
Find out what changed
Meet your host, Dr. Kimberly.
“For the first four or five years of my marriage, maybe a bit longer, there was one sentence I kept saying to myself. Did I marry the wrong person?”
Dr. Kimberly, on her own marriage
She’s a PhD researcher, the CEO of Marriage Helper, Rob’s wife and a mom. She teaches what the research says works, and what brought her own marriage back.
Grab your seatWhat people say about Dr. Kimberly.
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Dr. Kimberly, I prayed with you last Friday and my husband asked to come back to me on Monday. We are reconciling.
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Thanks Dr. Kimberly, youre a game changer and give me hope
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Awe man, every time I listen to Kimberly's story about military, pilots training, and everything I totally feel called to keep standing
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- ★★★★★
Great organization. Joe and Kimberly are the best. The whole bunch are awesome people. The techniques just work. Fix yourself first. Our marriage fell apart after 30 years. After 5 years, and the guidance from Marriage Helper, we put it back together. They can help. Whether your marriage is restored or not, you will be a better person.
Ed C., Google review
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This is solid gold advice - thank you
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Dr. Kimberly, just wanted to say a big “thank you” from all of us. You and dad are truly a God send.
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This was the missing piece for me
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- ★★★★★
Marriage Helper has been a life changer for me. It offered practical tools and methods to enhance communication, helped me navigate conflict constructively, and so much more. Thank you, Dr. Joe Beam, Kimberly Holmes, and the MH Team. I could not have broken the chains in my life without the tools, and support provided, and I am truly and forever grateful!
Mary H., Google review
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God bless you and the work you and your team are doing. Very encouraging to see how much it helps people
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No other program goes into detail on how to stay in contact
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Your amazing thank you for what you do
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- ★★★★★
The information that I receive from this wonderful community has been very helpful and has helped me with my confidence relationship-wise speaking. Also Dr Beam is wonderful and makes your mind at easy when your marriage is in trouble helping you to overcome your emotions. His daughter Kimberly is awesome too.
Leslie S., Google review
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Thank you so much! This really opened my eyes on how to communicate more health
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Thanks Dr. KBH!
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Thank you Kimberly! God bless you!
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- ★★★★★
Dr. Joe, Kimberly, the coaches, and the members walked the path of failed marriages with many of them restored. They know the pain of loss and betrayal, and they know the joy of new beginnings as couples and as singles.
Sarah N., Google review
Who we are.
Dr. Joe and Alice Beam, Dr. Kimberly’s parents, divorced and then remarried. Marriage Helper grew out of what brought them back, and in 32 years it has helped 25,000+ couples with research, the honest truth, and a way to start even if your spouse won’t.
You’ve got a message.
DrKimberlyBH: Okay, quick question. Don’t answer out loud.
DrKimberlyBH: What is it like to be married to you?
DrKimberlyBH: If that made you a little uncomfortable, good. That’s where we start on night one.
DrKimberlyBH: So where’s your marriage right now?
Straight from the chat.
Real messages from our live nights. Names changed.
- Brooke: Good evening everyone! I feel this is going to be so helpful!
- Caleb: It starts with me!! Love that.
- Dana: Wow so encouraging
- Hallie: I was ready to give up so many times!! Y’all Hope is teal! There is Hope!
- Gina: this is so so true!!
- Ian: That was really good: “I understand how you feel. I accept how you feel. And I hope you feel that way about me again someday.”
- Jade: There is hope! Never give up
- Kara: Dr. Kimberly, just wanted to say a big “thank you” from all of us. You and dad are truly a God send.
- Lena: i’m vigorously motivated!!! lol!!
- Rhett: I have walked out life on a solo mission in a marriage and have realized it was many self preserving actions that lead to a relationship broken
- Maya: yes! that’s it!!!
- Owen: i LOVE hearing the reconciliation stories
- Paige: This sounds amazing
- Quinn: LOL, Could it “be” any better
- Reid: this is why i am here
- Sasha: Wow I was about to give up I need it this.
- Tara: This is such an amazing thing y’all are doing. Love it
- Wade: Makes sense!
- Zoe: I really love being part of the MH community and everyone here thank you
- Corey: The love is real
- Renee: woah! that’s amazing
- Grant: I almost didn’t come after the day I’ve had. I appreciate listening to you and reading the chat. Very uplifting and helpful in directing me to continue standing. It’s easier to walk away, and today I almost gave up. Thank you.
- Leah: This is such an amazing opportunity you guys!
- Tessa: There truly is always HOPE! It’s never too late to start doing the work.
- Wes: well Kimberly I really appreciate y’all being innovative
- Nadia: We need a couch or cafe background lol
- Blake: Thanks Dr. Kimberly, youre a game changer and give me hope
- Bryce: have a great night, thank you so much for this webinar! It was wonderful!
- Avery: Helps to know we are not alone
- Celia: I love this was practical
- Dalton: Loved this format!
- Elise: Choosing to better yourself, and thereby all of your relationships, and arriving in a personal space where you know that you, and you life are improved, no matter what happens with your marriage. This is what the process is all about.
- Harper: It is SO hard. The hardest thing most of us ever have to go through, but what if it is all worth it???
- Jonah: Showing up late just for the hopium
- Kendra: Thank you for the tips and extra help for what not to say
- Lyle: This was great. Came at the right time. Thanks again. See you guys again soon.
- Mira: Thank you all! So valuable
What people say about Marriage Helper.
Google reviews, workshop cards and notes from our community.
- ★★★★★
Marriage Helper literally saved my life emotionally. They have taught me to start becoming my best self, and it has changed my life. Obviously the hope is to save your marriage, but this program changes your life in such a positive way whether you can reconcile or not.
Vince L., Google review
- ★★★★★
You guys changed my view of online support programs. It gave me calmness, confidence, knowledge, and hope. While focused on marriage, MH also improved other areas of my life. I especially love how charismatic, authentic, and knowledgeable the team members I had contact with were.
Milka L., Google review
- ★★★★★
Highly recommend this website! If you want to better yourself do this no matter what happens in your marriage! You can change yourself!
Marianne Y., Google review
- ★★★★★
When my husband asked for a divorce, everyone told me to accept it and walk away. But I wanted to work for my marriage. I found Marriage Helper and the advice was life-changing. I am forever grateful. We are still together. Happily.
Lisa P., Google review
- ★★★★★
Been to a jillion marriage workshops looking for hope over the last 20 years. I was skeptical but this one IS different. There is HOPE!
Carolyn G., Google review
- ★★★★★
I walked into Marriage Helper with a lot of stress, fear and anger. I walked out with hope, peace, and a resolve to do the next right thing.
Kevin P., Google review
- ★★★★★
Marriage Helper is unique because the people who work and teach there all have been through the same issues as the people they help. They know first hand what their clients are going through and what works to make things better.
Lee, Google review
- ★★★★★
I learned so much just by watching their YouTube channel. They helped me keep calm and understand what I needed to do and just as importantly what NOT TO DO.
Orly G., Google review
- ★★★★★
I did the online workshop. I am very new to finding Marriage Helper and the coaches are over the top! This is a great toolbox. I want to get couples workshops for my married children now.
Katrina E., Google review
- ★★★★★
We had a wonderful Zoom workshop weekend. Everyone at Marriage Helper was great. We both learned a lot about each other, even after 45 years of marriage. It is never too late to learn to be your best.
Teresa, Google review
- ★★★★★
I was a little skeptical that it would work for us before we went to the workshop, but boy, was I wrong. If you are not sure about this, DO IT! We have attended traditional therapy for 3 years and made more progress in just one weekend.
Jessica L., Google review
- ★★★★★
One of the most professional workshops I have ever been involved in. The information was clear, easy to understand, and very insightful. I would recommend it to any married couple at any stage of their marriage.
Shane H., Google review
- ★★★★★
Got so much out of the 3-day workshop. I especially liked the practical, hands-on tools that were given, and it made the time go by fast. My hope is that they will make a change for the better in my marriage and in my immediate family.
Margaret V., Google review
- ★★★★★
Unlike counseling, this program focused on what we could change about ourselves, rather than rehashing everything that we were doing to make each other miserable. Rather than leaving angry, embarrassed and bitter...we fell in love again and are happily married seven years later!!!
Becky C., Google review
- ★★★★★
The workshop was extremely helpful. We both learned a lot of information about each other that we otherwise would have never learned. Worth every penny of the cost. Highly recommend it!
Bobby L., Google review
- ★★★★★
Marriage Helper is truly a blessing in disguise. They give you the tools to make true changes in your life that will help you with your marriage. If you are willing to put the work in, it is worth every minute invested.
Devin P., Google review
- ★★★★★
I attended the Solo Spouse Workshop at a time when my wife was in no way interested in repairing our relationship, and I gained a massive amount of valuable knowledge and tools from it. These are people who really care about you and your marriage.
Kolby H., Google review
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I came here to change my spouse but ended up changing me. This workshop gave me hope when I felt hopeless. This workshop made me realize we are all broken and in need of love and grace.
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I did not want to go. I was glad I went. I did not make any life altering decision during the course of the workshop. I gained tools, understanding and content to think about.
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I came not willingly. I felt I was forced, but I'm leaving with hope.
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We feared our marriage was beyond help. This was our Hail Mary! The good news is we have a path forward, and we have hope!
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Marriage Helper gives people practical tools that they can put into practice over and over again. No shame. No judgment. No preaching.
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This workshop was different than any other marriage therapy or counseling we had done previously. The tools shared throughout the workshop you can put into practice on Day 1!
Workshop attendee, had tried therapy and counseling
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Marriage Helper will make your life better, with all relationships, present and future. Even if your marriage is not saved, you will learn so much value for yourself over the three days. There is also always hope, and this is the best program for possible reconciliation.
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This workshop allowed me at 77 to grow and renew my love for myself, my spouse and my marriage.
Workshop attendee, age 77
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You can't force your spouse to change but you can change your relationship.
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There is hope for every couple. Don't give up on your spouse! Everyone can work on themselves and change!
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This workshop gave me the tools and the hope to fight for my marriage, and to fight well. I left home as one person, but am returning different. It is still me, but a new me, a better me.
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My husband whom I have been separated from for the last 9 months asked me to come and I said no. A day before the workshop started I agreed and I'm so glad I did.
Workshop attendee, separated nine months
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Even when your spouse is unwilling to go, keep reaching out. Once at the workshop their view will change.
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Until today, I thought Lasik surgery was the best investment I've ever made. This workshop is the best investment I've ever made for my family and I.
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What seems like a "pricey" weekend returns a "priceless" gift. You. Whatever the reason, attending will make a better you. It doesn't cost to attend, it costs to not attend!
Workshop attendee
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If you haven't been to a workshop yet, do as many of the courses as you can, even if your spouse still refuses to attend. They help you understand so much about yourself, and often even more about your spouse.
Marriage Helper member
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I came to the workshop in November and all I can say is, wow. It was incredible. I already want to go back, because I know it can get us back on track.
Workshop attendee
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The Save My Marriage course is awesome if you're looking for something to do right now. That's what I started with, on my own. It helped me make changes in me, then I used Smart Contact and got my spouse to the couples workshop, and we reconciled because of the changes I made. You can do it too.
Marriage Helper member
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Just when you think hope is gone, this workshop brings it back, with force, and helps you see how to move forward.
Workshop attendee
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I believe that our marriage and our family will be stronger because of all the tools we learned here this weekend. Thank you for all that you do for families.
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My husband, whom I had been separated from for the last nine months, asked me to come and I said no. A day before the workshop started I agreed, and I am so glad I did.
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I was hesitant about coming when my husband first invited me, but I am really glad I came. A lot of what I learned will help bring us closer together and strengthen our marriage that came inches from a divorce.
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Life changing and eye opening. It changed my entire way of looking at our problems and gave me information that changed my life. Very well done.
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If God had a voice, it would be Joe Beam's voice. Your videos are what made me come here. Thank you.
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You cannot force your spouse to change, but you can change your relationship.
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An excellent workshop that did not focus on blame or judgement, but encouraged communication and healing. I am very glad we attended.
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The three-day workshop was engaging, well paced, and life changing. From the first minute to the last, I felt seen and challenged.
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I was skeptical because I had been to a therapist before, and this was completely different than I expected. It is coaching, and no one forces you to do anything. They give you the tools to learn from.
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I did not want to go. I was glad I went. I gained tools, understanding, and a lot to think about.
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No matter how bad you think your marriage is, this place shows you there is always a way to improve yourself, and things start to fall back into place once you do. You guys did awesome.
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This workshop gave us a roadmap to reconciliation and to falling in love again. It also helped me understand myself better and know what I need to work on.
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This class really puts a spotlight on yourself: how you tend to act and who you are. Even if you think you know yourself well, it opens your eyes and makes you look at yourself in a healthy way.
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This workshop was transformational. It took two years to get us in the room, and it was worth the wait. I gained the tools I needed to work on myself, understand the Love Path, and take real steps to reconcile. I am leaving lighter and hopeful.
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This workshop totally changed the direction of our marriage. We were able to see the underlying causes of conflict in our relationship, and we were given the right tools to address them.
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I came in very angry and judging of my spouse. I am leaving with new understanding and tools to move forward. Truly a life-changing workshop. Your life is worth the investment.
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This workshop gave me the tools I greatly needed to improve myself and my marriage. I am confident it will help me find healing and peace. Thank you for an amazing experience.
Workshop attendee
- ★★★★★
The solo workshop gave me great insights into my part in my marital issues. MH never promises to save your marriage, but I cannot imagine any better approach, giving it the best chance. No magic wand, just a path forward for me to walk, with great support along the way.
Mike H., Google review
- ★★★★★
I did the Solo Workshop this past weekend and it was from the Lord! I learned so much, and I love that it was founded on Christian values. I recommend it to everyone who is married.
Keila B., Google review
- ★★★★★
I went through the solo workshop, acquired all of the tool kits and have six coaching sessions. Dr Joe, Kimberly and all of the staff have changed my life and my relationship with my kids. My focus has been shifted from changing my wife’s mind to becoming the best version of me.
Scott C., Google review
- ★★★★★
The solo workshop was an eye opener for me. Really helped to understand a lot of things. I highly recommend!
Anna S., Google review
- ★★★★★
I have received such encouragement with the support and the 1 on 1 with Vinney. I have been given hope for my marraige.
Anthony S., Google review
- ★★★★★
The information, coaching and support has helped me more than words can say. I feel so blessed to have found this program.
Tina S., Google review
- ★★★★★
I highly recommend Marriage helper workshops. Lots of info and practical help. Coaches are helpful and caring.
Alf W., Google review
- ★★★★★
Now, a year and a half later, we are still together. We are making long-term plans, communicating more effectively, and connecting on a much deeper level. Whenever I reflect on the positive changes in our marriage, I feel immense gratitude for this organization.
Antonina K., Google review
- ★★★★★
Our marriage fell apart after 30 years. After 5 years, and the guidance from Marriage Helper, we put it back together. They can help. Whether your marriage is restored or not, you will be a better person.
Ed C., Google review
- ★★★★★
We went to the Marriage Helper about 9ish years ago and it saved our Marriage. We also learned a lot about each other, ourselves, how to communicate more effectively and how to be a safe place for each other through conflict.
Christina G., Google review
- ★★★★★
We are in such an amazing place now. So much better than we were before our marriage crisis. I’m so grateful that I stumbled upon Marriage Helper!
Rozann M., Google review
- ★★★★★
Very timely for where we were at in our marriage. Even before we attended the workshop, the free resources already started making traction. Before the workshop, we were stuck, and now we have a path forward that is giving us hope.
Cheryl S., Google review
- ★★★★★
The twelve-week Save My Marriage Course was amazing to walk through and complete and I can’t wait to do more of their courses, as I learned so much.
Paul E., Google review
- ★★★★★
Even in my case I saw that smart contact and PIES worked. I will apply the principles in my future relationship.
Vita D., Google review
- ★★★★★
It’s user friendly and All of the information is there to help you succeed in saving your marriage. It works! It takes effort, the tools and the support are there if you need it.
Matthew H., Google review
- ★★★★★
Through the help of the membership, coaches, workshop, toolkits, podcast, videos, and Facebook groups, I changed my life. The organization is not just about saving marriages, although that is definitely a goal, it changes you individually to help in every area of your life.
Kelly J., Google review
This week on More Than Friends.
Each night opens with one question. You answer it again at the end and see what changed.
Wed Oct 28 6 to 9 pm CT
The One About Love
What happened to us?
- The LovePath, and where you two got stuck
- Why the thing you loved started driving you crazy
- Why trying harder hasn’t fixed it
Thu Oct 29 6 to 8 pm CT
The One With Dr. Kimberly
Backstage seats only
- Two hours in a smaller group
- Send in your situation ahead of time
- Real stories, worked through live
Pick your seat.
Every seat gets both nights, and one ticket covers you and your spouse. Early bird prices end Friday, October 16, at midnight.
Studio Audience
Admit one · Live studio taping
Regular price $97 $47
Early bird price until October 16
- Both live nights, October 27 and 28
- The workbook and your Relationship Map
- Your attraction self-assessment
- The LovePath quiz
- Live Q&A both nights
- Replays for 7 days
Front Row
Admit one · Live studio taping
Regular price $249 $197
Early bird price until October 16
- Everything in Studio Audience
- A small group with a coach right after each night
- Your personal attraction and LovePath results report
- Send in your situation ahead of time
- Replays for 30 days
Backstage
Admit one · Live studio taping
Regular price $397 $299
Early bird price until October 16
- Everything in Front Row
- The roundtable with Dr. Kimberly, Thursday, October 29, 6 to 8 pm CT
- Your questions go to the front of the line
- Keep the replays for good
- Only 50 Backstage seats
Show up. Risk nothing.
Come to night one live and do the exercises. If you don’t leave seeing yourself differently, email us before midnight that night and we’ll refund every penny.
Questions.
Does my spouse have to come?
No. Every exercise works if you’re the only one there. This starts with you, the part you can actually change. And if your spouse does want to watch, one ticket covers you both.
We’re not in crisis. We just feel like roommates. Is this for us?
Yes. Honestly, this is a great time to come. You get to figure out why the two of you drifted before it turns into something bigger.
Things are really hard right now. Is this still for us?
If you’re married, yes. These two nights are built for marriages anywhere from “we feel like roommates” to “I’m worried we won’t make it.” They aren’t built for dating couples or for people who are already divorced.
Do I need to have watched Friends?
Nope. The 90s theme is just for fun. You don’t need to know a single episode to get everything out of these two nights.
When is it, and what if I miss part of it?
Night one is Tuesday, October 27, and night two is Wednesday, October 28, both from 6 to 9 pm Central, live on Zoom. Every seat comes with replays: 7 days for Studio Audience, 30 days for Front Row, and Backstage keeps them for good. Backstage also gets the roundtable with Dr. Kimberly on Thursday, October 29, from 6 to 8 pm Central.
What is the difference between the seats?
Every seat gets both nights and the full teaching. Front Row adds a small group with a Marriage Helper coach right after each night, your personal results report, and 30 days of replays. Backstage adds the Thursday roundtable with Dr. Kimberly, puts your questions at the front of the line, and keeps the replays for good. There are only 50 Backstage seats.
What if it isn’t for me?
Come to night one live and do the exercises. If you don’t leave seeing yourself differently, email us before midnight that night and we’ll refund every penny.
Is this faith-based?
We are a faith-based organization, and we don’t hide that. What we teach is grounded in research and real psychology, so it works whether faith is central to your life or not. You’re welcome here either way.
What happens after night two?
At the end of night two, Dr. Kimberly will tell you about the next step if you want help changing the pattern you found. Whether you take it is completely up to you.
From “What happened to us?” to “Now I get it.”
- Tue + Wed, October 27 and 28
- 6 to 9 pm CT
- Live on Zoom