How To Stop Being Jealous In Marriage
The short answer
To stop being jealous in marriage, work on becoming secure, because jealousy comes from insecurity about not being good enough, attractive enough, or intelligent enough. Be self-aware: reflect on your emotions and thoughts to find where the jealousy is coming from, which is often a breach of trust in this or a past relationship. If trust was broken, rebuild it.
Key takeaways
- Jealousy grows out of insecurity, the fear that you are not good enough, attractive enough, or smart enough.
- It steals the joy from your marriage by keeping your eyes on what is lacking in you and in your relationship.
- Jealousy often traces back to broken trust, in your marriage or a past relationship, and rebuilding that trust is the best fix.
- Take time to reflect on your feelings and your past so you can find where the jealousy is really coming from.

Jealousy happens when we are insecure. It comes from the insecurity about not being good enough, attractive enough, or intelligent enough. And we all know that jealousy is the thief of joy. And it will steal the joy in your marriage, too. Why? Because it keeps you focused on what is not enough, how you are not enough, and how your relationship is not good enough.
And if you are struggling with your relationship, then you’re not alone. But jealousy will wreak havoc, and it probably already has in your marriage.
Rebuild Trust
Here’s what you need to know about jealousy. If one spouse breaks the other’s trust, the best thing to do is rebuild trust. And typically, jealousy usually happens because there’s some breach of trust, whether from this or a previous relationship.
The best thing you can do is work towards becoming secure and realizing that you don’t have to be jealous. You are good enough, your relationship is good enough, and you need to start focusing on the positive things. But it also stems from being self-aware enough to overcome your insecurities.
So the question I have for you is, are you? Are you self-aware? Are you willing to sit and reflect on your emotions, feelings, and thoughts, and identify where this jealousy is coming from? That is the key to where you need to start. Because if you don’t do those things, then it will ruin your relationship.
Jealousy and the havoc it can wreak on your relationship can destroy it. We can help you do that through the processes we teach. We can help you in the coaching we have and in the workshops we hold, because this needs attention in your relationship.
We Can Help
Have you struggled with jealousy in your relationship? Take some time. Why do you think that you struggle with that jealousy?
What are some things that have happened in your past that have led to some of these insecurities? You can start by asking yourself that question. The next thing that you can do is get our free mini-course. It will begin to teach you the foundational principles you need for a healthy and strong marriage. It’s called the “How To Get Your Spouse Back” mini-course.
But the principles we teach can also apply to so many different situations. So get the free mini-course to begin changing your relationship right now.
If you’re struggling in your marriage but not sure what to do next, get in touch with one of our client representatives here. They can direct you towards the best resource we have for your specific situation.
Common questions
Why am I so jealous in my marriage?
Jealousy usually comes from insecurity, and it typically happens because there has been some breach of trust, either in this relationship or a previous one. Asking yourself what in your past led to these insecurities is a good place to start.
Can jealousy ruin a marriage?
It can. Jealousy steals the joy in your marriage because it keeps you focused on what is not enough, how you are not enough, and how your relationship is not good enough.
What should we do if jealousy started after broken trust?
If one spouse broke the other’s trust, the best thing to do is rebuild that trust. Alongside that, the jealous spouse can work on becoming secure and focusing on the positive things in the relationship.