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The Connection Compass starts with you. Even if your spouse isn’t ready.

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“My husband has said, ‘What happened to my wife? Who is this person?’”
Solo spouse, week 2, Connection Compass

You shouldn’t have to save your marriage by yourself.

Most people in your spot either push harder or give up. Neither one works, and you don’t have to keep guessing.

The Connection Compass is Marriage Helper’s six-month marriage coaching program. It starts with one spouse, even if your husband or wife isn’t ready: one coach, a live class and a small group every week, and a seat for both of you at the three-day Couples Workshop.

I know what it’s like to be sure there’s no way through.

I knew my marriage was done. It was the worst weekend of my life. My husband Rob and I are still married today, and I don’t say that to brag. I say it because I know what it’s like to be sure there’s no way through, and to be wrong.

My parents, Dr. Joe Beam and my mom, started Marriage Helper in 1994. Since then we’ve worked with more than 25,000 couples. Your coach knows your story. And nobody here is gonna judge you for any of it.

Dr. Kimberly Beam HolmesCEO of Marriage Helper

Marriage coaching is not counseling. For a marriage in crisis, that matters.

We respect therapy. We refer to it often. But if your marriage is on fire right now, the question is not “why does this hurt.” It is “what do I do this week.”

Marriage counselingThe Connection Compass
Primary aim Insight into why you are the way you are. What to try this week. Behavioral and specific.
Format Weekly 50-minute sessions over months. Six months with one coach, plus a live class and a small group every week.
Both spouses needed Usually required. Not required. Most clients start alone.
Built for crisis Built for general couples work. Built for affairs, separation, papers filed, and standing-alone spouses.
Direct advice Therapist stays neutral by training. Your coach guides you to the next right thing and the patterns to step away from.
Price Typically $150 to $250 per session. $5,000 for six months, about $192 a week, with the Couples Workshop included.

There is an agenda for every single week. Here it is.

Eight weeks with your coach, one at a time. Then the same coach stays with you through month six.

Wanted
Attraction
Known
Acceptance
Secure
Attachment
Together
Aspiration
You are here

Week 1. Kickoff and your Gameplan call

Your Compass Your wiring, next to your spouse's.

It is not because you lost your mind. A survival instinct took over.

“Do I trust that you will be there for me when I need you?”

The one question under every attachment style.

What you learn

  • Why people do what they do: attachment, as two scales, not four boxes
  • How people act: the Four Cs
  • Your archetype, one of sixteen, and what you do that pushes your spouse away or pulls them back

What you do this week

  • Take your assessments before the kickoff and read your fifteen-page report
  • Your Gameplan call: your dedicated coach reads your report with you and you build the plan for your marriage
  • Write down what brought you here and what you want from the eight weeks

Before the kickoff you take your assessments. The kickoff call runs about two hours: you meet your group and get your Connection Compass. Then about an hour, one on one, with your coach: your Gameplan call.

Week 1 of 8

The Connection Compass

$5,000

Six months, one coach. About $192 a week.

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  • A marriage coach you meet with every month.
  • A custom roadmap for your marriage.
  • Knowing how you are wired, and how your spouse is wired.
  • A live class and a small group every week, with people where you are.
  • A seat for both of you at our three-day Couples Workshop for whenever your spouse is ready, in person near Nashville or live online.
  • The Save My Marriage Course, yours from the first day.

Here’s how it works

  1. Apply. About four minutes. Most of the questions are about you, not your spouse.
  2. Talk with an advisor. If we’re a fit, you pick a time. Show up for the call and a $100 gift card for the Marriage Helper store is yours.
  3. Start with your coach. You get a plan built for your marriage, and someone in your corner who knows you by name.

Is your spouse ready now? Then the two of you start the Compass with the three-day Couples Workshop, and you keep your coach after. It’s the same program, just a different first step. See the Couples Workshop

Who we’re looking for.

This is for you if

  • Your spouse has checked out, moved out, or said the word divorce, and you’re not ready to give up.
  • There’s been an affair, or you’re afraid there is one.
  • You want to start, even if your spouse never does a thing.
  • You can give it two to three hours a week.

And honestly, some of the people who get the most out of it aren’t in a crisis at all. They tell us the same thing every time: I wish we’d known this five years ago.

It’s not the right fit if

  • You’re not married.
  • You’re waiting for your spouse to change first.
  • You’re not safe at home, or you’re having thoughts of hurting yourself. Please get help first. These people can help right now.

When one person changes, everything after that starts to change too.

4.6 across 192 Google reviews. Read them yourself.

Antonina K.Verified Google review★★★★★
Now, a year and a half later, we are still together. We are making long-term plans, communicating more effectively, and connecting on a much deeper level. Whenever I reflect on the positive changes in our marriage, I feel immense gratitude for this organization.
Abby R.Verified Google review★★★★★
Worked the course solo, then attended the couples 3 day workshop. The whole course is life changing for the better. The staff is above and beyond wonderful and empathetic, the founders are compassionate and caring.
Vince L.Verified Google review★★★★★
Marriage Helper literally saved my life emotionally. They have taught me to start becoming my best self, and it has changed my life. Obviously the hope is to save your marriage, but this program changes your life in such a positive way whether you can reconcile or not.

The questions people ask first.

Can I save my marriage by myself?

Often, yes. One spouse can change the direction of a marriage by stopping the reactions that push a husband or wife away and starting the ones that draw them back. It is not a guarantee, and the outcome is never owned by one person alone. The Connection Compass is built for exactly that start.

Is marriage coaching the same as marriage counseling?

No. We respect therapy and refer to it often. Counseling usually needs both spouses and looks at why things are the way they are. Coaching is about what to do this week, and you do not need your spouse in the room to start.

How much does marriage coaching cost?

The Connection Compass is $5,000 for six months with one coach, about $192 a week, and your seats at the three-day Couples Workshop are included. If you need a payment plan, ask on your call.

Does my spouse have to do this with me?

No. Most people start on their own. A marriage is a cycle two people are stuck in, and when one person changes their part of it, everything after that starts to change. Your seat at the Couples Workshop waits until your spouse is ready.

Is the Couples Workshop part of it?

Yes. The Compass includes a seat for both of you at the three-day Couples Workshop, in person near Nashville or live online, for whenever your spouse is ready. If you start together, those three days come first.

Is it online? How much time does it take?

Everything is online except the Couples Workshop, and you can do that one in person in Spring Hill, Tennessee, just south of Nashville, or live online. Plan on two to three hours a week: a live class, a small group, and your coach.

My spouse is in an affair. Is this for me?

Yes. Affairs are one of the main things we have worked with for more than thirty years, including limerence, which Dr. Joe Beam has been teaching since 2006. You are not competing with the other person. The work is on your marriage, and on you.

Is it a religious program?

Marriage Helper was founded on faith, and it shapes how we care for people. But it is built for any marriage, we will never preach at you, and you are never asked to share our beliefs to be helped.

Why do I have to apply?

Because working with a coach is a real commitment, on your side and on ours. We would rather find out with you whether this is the right fit before anybody spends a dollar.

What if the investment is not possible for me right now?

Tell us on the application. If it is not possible right now, we will send you to the Save My Marriage Course, the same teaching on your own time, and you can apply again when things change.

We get you, and we got you.

You can keep guessing, or you can know what to do. If this is you, I want you to apply. If we’re not the right fit yet, we’ll tell you, and we’ll point you to what is.

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