How to Make Your Cheating Spouse Jealous!
The short answer
You can’t really “get back” at a cheating spouse. Whatever you try will never satisfy your hurt and pain, and revenge can make things much worse. What works is working on you through the PIES: physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual. Do it because you deserve to be your best, not to win your spouse’s attention.
Key takeaways
- Revenge never satisfies the hurt of an affair and can make your situation much worse.
- Trying to control your spouse, make them feel bad, or tell everyone how bad they are tends to leave you feeling emptier than before.
- You can’t control your spouse’s choices, but you can control yours, so focus on growing physically, intellectually, emotionally and spiritually.
- Work on yourself because you deserve to be your best, not as a tactic to make your spouse jealous.
How to Make Your Cheating Spouse Jealous!
If your spouse had an affair (or is still in an affair) and you want to know what you can do to “get back” at them, there are four things you should know.
Let us start off by saying you can’t “get back” at your spouse for having an affair…Whatever you may try to “get back” at them, it can never really satisfy your hurt and pain. Revenge doesn’t work and it can make things much WORSE.
So what CAN you do? Is there anything that actually works!? Yes.
What is it? To work on “you.” YES- we’ve seen this in the lives of thousands and thousands of people. When your spouse had an affair, or is still in an affair, you can focus on the wrong things: wanting to control him… making her feel bad… …or even telling everyone else around you just how bad your spouse is.
Unfortunately any of these actions leave a person feeling MORE empty than before. We know that people don’t make the best decisions in a state of pain- or a negative state of mind. And, while you can’t control what your spouse does, you CAN control you. The only thing that actually works is to work on you. It’s not because your spouse “deserves” this. It’s not about your spouse. It’s about you. You deserve to be your best.
That’s why we teach the PIES: Working on yourself Physically, Intellectually, Emotionally, and Spiritually.
What does this look like? Physically, take good care of your body. Intellectually, fill your mind with good things- learn something new! Emotionally, surround yourself with encouraging environment. Be with positive people who help you become the best version of yourself! Spiritually, live into your beliefs and values.
You can start working on your “PIES.” Remember, don’t do it to attract the attention of your spouse or to get back at them. Rather YOU DESERVE to be the best you that you can be!
Start working on your PIES with the Art of Attraction Toolkit. You’ll get access to a 30 Day “PIES Tracker” to set goals for yourself and also get access to in-depth videos on each area of the PIES.
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Common questions
How do I get revenge on my cheating spouse?
Revenge won’t give you what you want. Nothing you do to hurt them back will satisfy the pain, and trying to control them, shame them or turn others against them usually leaves you emptier and makes things worse.
Will working on myself make my cheating spouse jealous?
That shouldn’t be the goal. Marriage Helper teaches you to work on yourself for your own sake, not to win your spouse’s attention or punish them, because you deserve to be your best.
What does it mean to work on your PIES?
It means caring for your body, filling your mind with good things and learning something new, spending time with positive people who encourage you, and living out your faith and values.