Should I Put Up With This From My Spouse
The short answer
This Dr. Joe Show episode answers whether you should put up with destructive behavior from your spouse, from repeated lying to an emotional affair while they still live at home. Dr. Joe also covers a spouse in a midlife crisis, a mate who threatens to leave if you keep raising problems, and how to know when to press, give space, or give an ultimatum.
Key takeaways
- Dr. Joe takes on listener questions about living with a spouse who is doing destructive things to the marriage.
- The episode looks at whether all lies are the same, whether to set traps, and how to know when your spouse is finally telling the truth.
- It covers what to do when a spouse is emotionally involved with someone else but still lives at home and asks you to wait it out.
- Dr. Joe also explains how to tell when to press for answers, when to give space, and when it is time for an ultimatum.
Several crucial questions have come in about how to deal with spouses doing destructive things. In this program, we will deal with questions such as:
What do I do if my spouse keeps lying? Are all lies the same? Do I react to all of them the same way? Should I set traps to catch him / her in the lies?
How do I know s/he’s telling the truth now? S/he claims that all lies are over but I have my doubts.
What do I do if my cheating spouse is lying to my kids about what’s going on with us? Do I tell them the truth?
My mate still lives at home though s/he is involved emotionally with someone else. I’m trying to save the marriage and s/he tells me that if I’ll just be patient and let this run its course, everything will be fine? Am I a fool to believe that? Is s/he using me? What do I do?
I think my spouse is going through mid-life crisis. S/he is moody, depressed, doesn’t communicate. How do I deal with this?
My mate says if I stop talking about hour problesm s/he will stay but if I keep bringing things up, s/he’s out of here. Yet I can’t live with things like they are. Do I shut up? Do I press for answers?
When is it time to give an ultimatum? How do I know when it’s time to press things or if I’m better off to give a little more space?
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Common questions
What do I do if my spouse keeps lying?
This episode takes that question head on, including whether all lies are the same, whether you should react to every lie the same way, and whether you should set traps to catch your spouse. It also covers how to know if your spouse is telling the truth now.
Should I tell my kids the truth if my cheating spouse is lying to them?
Dr. Joe answers this exact question from a listener whose cheating spouse was lying to the kids about what was going on. Listen to the episode for his answer before you decide what to tell your children.
When is it time to give my spouse an ultimatum?
Dr. Joe works through when it’s time to give an ultimatum and how to tell whether to press things or give your spouse a little more space. He also covers what to do when your mate says they’ll stay only if you stop bringing up problems.