MarriageHelper However you got here, you are in the right place. The fastest way through is to name the situation you are actually in, then take one honest step instead of ten anxious ones. Below you will find the six situations we help with most, the one article to read when you are not sure which fits, and a few short teachings for the days you just need to find your footing.
Guided by Dr. Joe Beam and Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes, who
have helped 25,000+ couples over 32 years.
Pick the one closest to where you are right now. Each opens a hub built for that situation, with a free mini-course from Dr. Joe Beam and Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes on what is really happening and what to do next.
If you read only one thing today, read this. When you do not yet know which situation is yours, the seven ways are the place to begin. They are the things that move a marriage in crisis, in the order they actually work, starting with what one spouse can do alone. It is the clearest map we have, and the article that has helped the most people take a real first step.
Read the 7 waysBefore you decide anything, the first job is to get out of crisis-brain and steady yourself. These short teachings from Dr. Joe Beam and Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes are where many people start.
People who were certain it was over, in their own words. Hundreds more tell their stories on our YouTube channel.
“There was an affair, and we were certain it was over. Somehow we came back, and we are still together today.”
Watch their story “We were so close to giving up. We left with a plan and a real reason to stay.”
Watch their story “I came in with very little hope. I left with complete hope for a path forward, and the tools to actually walk it.”
Watch their story A great many of the people we walk with are praying for a marriage that looks impossible. That is not a small thing or a last resort. If the words are hard to find right now, you are welcome to borrow these.
A prayer for a troubled marriageStart with the seven ways to save your marriage. It is the clearest first read when you are not sure which situation fits, and it lays out what one spouse can do before anything else. From there, pick the situation that sounds most like yours and open its free mini-course.
Often, yes. One spouse can change the direction of a marriage by stopping the natural reactions that push a partner away and starting the ones that draw them back. It is not a guarantee, and the outcome is never owned by one person alone, but a willing spouse can do far more than most people are told.
That fear is honest, and it deserves a straight answer. You can only control your half of this. Doing the work gives your marriage its best real chance and makes you someone you respect either way. A fighting chance is not a sure thing, and it is still worth fighting for.
Pick the situation that fits and start its free mini-course. It is the first thing that tends to help, and it costs you nothing but twenty minutes.
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