I assume that you're watching this video because you're contemplating separating from your spouse. Maybe you're even in the first stages of separation and trying to figure out, “Did we make the right decision?"
No matter how much you invest, work on, and improve your marriage, no marriage is ever going to be perfect. What makes the difference is acknowledging when you mess up, realizing how you could have done it better, and fixing it going forward.
One of the things I hear as soon as people discover I work with couples is, "What is the one thing I can do to make my marriage better? You have to have a magic line right? There's a pill. There has to be something."
When your trust has been broken, it can be from any number of things. It could be that your spouse lies continually, and finally, it’s just too much. Or, you discover your spouse is gambling and has put you in financial distress. It even could be that your spouse is having an affair. Whatever the circumstance is, trust was broken.
If your spouse files for divorce, you might feel lost and confused, not knowing what to do. You might be devastated, angry, or overwhelmed by emotions. Maybe you’re even questioning, "Why should I even try to save my marriage?"