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The harder you try to save your marriage, the faster they run.
You are not doing too little. You are doing the one thing that pushes them further away, and nobody ever told you.
Save my free seat Monday, July 27 at 7:00 PM Central
You have already tried everything you know to try.
- You have apologized, more than once.
- You have begged them to stay, to talk, to just listen.
- You have sent the long text explaining how you really feel.
- You have called when they did not answer.
- You have reread their messages, looking for what they really meant.
- You have relistened to voicemails for a clue about where you stand.
- You have told them again how much you love them.
Every one of those comes from love. Every one of them lands as pressure.
It has a name.
The pursuit trap.
The very thing you are doing to pull them back is the exact thing pushing them out the door. To you it feels like fighting for your marriage. To them it feels like being chased.
You are not failing because you do not care enough. You are stuck because you have been trying to fix how you feel in the moment, instead of the thing that is actually driving them away.
If you knew what to do, you would have done it by now.
So let me say the obvious thing first. This is not a character flaw, and you did not ruin this by caring too much. It just means nobody has shown you the pattern yet.
I have spent fourteen years working with marriages in crisis. I have watched these exact behaviors quietly sink marriage after marriage. I have also watched people stop them, learn what actually works, and draw back a spouse everyone else had written off.
Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO, Marriage Helper
How this works.
Show up Monday night
Live at 7:00 Central, from wherever you are. Nobody sees you, and you do not have to say a word.
Leave knowing what to do
What to stop this week, and what to do instead. Specific enough to use the next time they text.
If nothing changes
You keep doing the things that feel like love and land as pressure. They keep backing away. And you keep believing the answer is to try even harder.
After Monday night
You know exactly which behaviors to put down, what to do in their place, and why it works. The next time they text, you will not be guessing.
Free live webinar
Stop pushing. Start drawing them back.
Monday, July 27 at 7:00 PM Central
Free to attend, live with Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. Bring your situation and your questions.