Do you keep having the same arguments without getting anywhere? Are there fundamental beliefs that you and your spouse don’t agree on that are making it difficult to move forward? Or maybe you both know exactly how to push each others’ buttons…and do it often. Conflict in marriage is healthy…but not when you can never compromise. Let’s help you move past the fight and into the solution.
Many times, when we are in a situation with our spouse where there's been an error, there's been a struggle, we're in conflict, or they've done something that we don't like, it's a place where we want to confront them.
Let me guess... your spouse is cold and distant. You feel like everything revolves around what your spouse wants. Your spouse may seemingly lack empathy or an awareness of how his or her reactions affect others. The list goes on and on. In fact, when you Google these things, everything you read points to the fact that your spouse is a narcissist...
From what I’ve researched and read, I believe that there are three questions behind this question that are actually going on in these kinds of scenarios.
Many people have asked, “How can I practice SMART Contact while I’m social distancing?!” In this article, we’ll give you some Social-Distancing-SMART-Contact-Tips so you can have better communication, less marriage tension, and healthy boundaries (whether you’re separated OR stuck at home with your spouse).
It seems like the best marriages are the ones where they say, “We never fight.” Or, that they, “Always get along and always agree.” But we’re here to say that these experiences are not healthy (and, they’re not realistic). You need to have conflict with your spouse, but in a way that DOESN’T destroy your relationship.
Why is it that when we have troubles in our marriage we automatically think, “Let’s go to marriage counseling...” It’s the thing you do, right? I mean, it’s all you hear about from family, friends, or just society in general. We feel like it’s what we need to do if our marriage is in crisis. And, it seems to be the only option that’s there... But we want you to know that marriage counseling may not be what you truly need! We'll explain 3 things you may not know about counseling and how it works so you can decide if it’s what you should do to save your marriage.