As season 1 of Relationship Radio comes to an end, we at Marriage Helper thought it would be useful to recap some highlights from our most popular episodes. Remember this is just a short recap, so if you read something here that sparks an interest, feel free to check out our courses for more in-depth information.
Episode 1: How Do I Show My Spouse That I’ve Changed?
One of the most common questions that we get at Marriage Helper is, “What can I do to show my spouse I’ve changed?”
People ask us this question because they’re so desperately wanting to do something to change the trajectory of their marriage and bring their spouse back. There are so many things that go into pulling a marriage back together. We wish we had a magic answer, a simple pill, a quick sentence, or a quick solution to show your spouse you’ve changed.
That isn’t how it works. In reality, it takes understanding the things that have perhaps pushed your spouse away and then beginning to change your behavior over time. Patience and hard work are the keys to showing your spouse that you’ve changed.
Understand that typically, marriage difficulties don’t occur overnight. It takes a while for those things to develop. So, remember two things as we go through this. If you want to show your spouse you’ve changed, you must remember two words: consistency and time.
Episode 2: How Limerence Ends
Here at Relationship Radio, we get all kinds of questions on all kinds of topics related to marriage. The most common questions have to do with a thing called limerence. A word coined back in the 1970s by Dr. Dorothy Tennov, she studied people who identified themselves as being “madly in love.” If you’re reading this, you may be wondering, “I still don’t really understand limerence. How did this happen?” If you want to know all about this state of being “madly in love” and how limerence ends, we can help.
When it comes to limerence, it is important to learn what exactly limerence is, how it begins, and how it ends in order to help you save your relationship. There are things you can do right now to help your situation so that you can positively impact your marriage.
Episode 3: Sexual Rejection In Marriage
Ample research across the globe in many different countries, over different years, came to the same conclusion, and that’s this: marital satisfaction and sexual satisfaction rise and fall together.
The first key takeaway is to remember that everything that happens inside the bedroom affects what happens outside the bedroom and everything that happens outside the bedroom affects what happens inside the bedroom.
The second key takeaway is that sometimes there are physical issues. Sometimes, there are physiological issues with hormones or neurochemicals in our brains that need to be addressed by a mental health provider because it affects our sex life. If that is the case, visit a doctor, because nothing we say is supposed to be taken for medical advice.
The third key takeaway is remembering that the real source of attraction comes from within yourself. Instead of just trying to wait until your spouse says or does something towards you to make you feel attractive, focus on what you can do to realize that you are worth it and you are good enough inside of yourself first and foremost.
Episode 4: Is Marriage Reconciliation Possible After Separation?
All the time, people come to Marriage Helper saying, “We tried to reconcile, but it’s just impossible. We got back together thinking we could do it, then it didn’t work.” You know why? Because they didn’t know how.
Do you want to know how to have a complete breakthrough right away? No years of counseling necessary. There’s a MUCH better way to reconcile…Even when it seems impossible, and like your marriage is still falling apart despite your best efforts. If you want to know how, listen to this podcast where Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes share how to get back the marriage you first had when you said “I do.”
Episode 5: A Failing Marriage and How To Save It
You want to save your failing marriage, but your spouse has made it clear that he or she wants out. As a matter of fact, maybe they’ve already filed for divorce. Maybe you guys are separated and living in different places. Or maybe you’re still living in the same house, but saying, “Nope, it’s over. We’re done.”
- If you want to attract your spouse back to you and make your marriage work, realize that you’re going to do it alone at first.
- Begin to accept your spouse, no matter what situation your marriage is in.
- The best way to make your marriage work is by being together.
- Before making decisions on how you should act, remember those three questions: if I do this what am I trying to accomplish? How likely is it that I’m going to accomplish that? How likely is it that something else is going to happen all together
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