You may have seen some people out there talking about “No Contact” and you may be wondering, “Is this something I should try for my marriage?” Or maybe you've already been trying “No Contact” and you're puzzled, wondering, “When is it actually going to start working?”
Many people have asked, “How can I practice SMART Contact while I’m social distancing?!” In this article, we’ll give you some Social-Distancing-SMART-Contact-Tips so you can have better communication, less marriage tension, and healthy boundaries (whether you’re separated OR stuck at home with your spouse).
One question we get all the time is, “How do I use SMART Contact if I have kids?” If you and your spouse have a family, the thought of going days or weeks without talking to your spouse is more than painful- it’s scary! You’re not just thinking about you- you’re also thinking about your children… “How is it going to affect them if they don’t hear from their mom or their dad for an extended period of time?” Because children are involved, we want to help you implement SMART Contact in the best way.
One question we get all the time is, “How do I use SMART Contact if I don’t have kids?” If you and your spouse aren’t talking, the thought of going days or weeks without talking isn’t just painful- it’s terrifying! Especially if you feel like there’s nothing to hold your relationship together like having kids would… so what can you do?
The Holidays can be some of the most difficult and lonely times of the year, especially if your spouse is completely disengaged. Maybe your spouse stopped talking to you, or you’re separated, or you’re in the middle of a divorce… Whatever your situation may be, SMART Contact is the BEST way to communicate with your spouse, no matter what has happened. If anything works to bring back your spouse and get them to open up, this will.
When we at first called it No Contact, as a way of getting your spouse back, we didn't anticipate how people would hear those words over the other things we said about the principle. Allow me to explain:
I ask my husband a question; I wait 30 minutes. I promise. 30 minutes for him to respond. Sometimes I wait for an hour. Sometimes I wait for 2 days. What is that? Let’s look at some possible reasons why he’s not talking. Click here to read.