Terms and Conditions for the Save My Marriage: a Marriage Helper Community Facebook Group

Welcome to the Save My Marriage: a Marriage Helper Community Facebook Group! This group is a complimentary service provided by Marriage Helper, an organization that provides workshops and online courses to help people save their marriages.

Please be aware that Marriage Helper has NO control over how Facebook shows posts, groups, or anything else. This group is a Private and Visible group. This means people who are not members of the group can see the group exists, but they can not see that you are a member or what you are writing unless they join. Find out more about Facebook’s group settings here.

By joining this group, you agree to the following terms and conditions:

  • Do not encourage others to divorce or give up.

    Remember, we do not have to live with the consequences of another person’s choice. If you encourage others to divorce, separate, or do something that would hurt their marriage, you will be removed. This includes announcing that you are ending your stand.

  • Do not post/share private communications

    No screenshots of communications with your spouse or others. No direct quoting of what they said. Respect your spouse’s right to privacy! Summarizing in your own words is acceptable. Further, do not share posts through the share button or taking pictures of posts and sharing them with others. Let’s be mature adults. We strive to make this a SAFE PLACE. What happens in the group stays in the group.

  • Do not ask people to private message you or offer – this is unsafe. Don’t do it.

    Connecting with people you don’t know is dangerous. It is also possible to develop feelings of love for someone you may be attracted to. Keep all communications public. Stay safe and don’t ask others to contact you.

    Do not give out your number for people to call you – this is unsafe. Don’t do it.

    Do not befriend people that you don’t know that are part of the group and they feel uncomfortable to the point they notify the admins – this is unsafe. Don’t do it.

    If we are told that you are sending unsolicited messages to people, you will be removed.

  • Do not post videos or outside links/materials

    This includes Facebook Live Videos or any Personal Videos (other than from Marriage Helper Team and Staff). These are hard for us to monitor. Please keep your posts in text form so that we can get to them in an efficient way. Links to outside sites are not allowed. Screenshots of resources are not allowed either as these may violate copyright laws. Links to other Marriage Helper resources are OK.

  • Do not threaten suicide/self harm

    We are not heartless, but we cannot allow ideas like this to spread. If you feel that you are in danger, please seek medical help. Visit: https://988lifeline.org, or if you are in the US simply dial 988 on any phone – they are experts who can help.

  • No attacking others/respectful language

    Be respectful of EVERYONE, at all times. Our community is made of people from all walks of life, in all different situations. It is never our job to insult, judge or criticize – even affair partners.

  • Pictures are modest & don’t include spouse or AP

    Please no revealing selfies. Keep stomachs and chests covered. Do not include pictures of spouse or affair partner unless you have their permission it is a violation of privacy.

  • Do not promote materials not from Marriage Helper

    We feel a great responsibility for what we do and who we serve. We only promote products, services, books, and organizations that we know and have personally vetted and know to teach people things that ACTUALLY WORK. Therefore, we will make recommendations based on our experience, research, and due diligence. If you heard something promoted in a Marriage Helper podcast, feel free to share the link to that podcast.

  • Keep it marriage related

    Off-topic posts are removed. Memes, jokes, motivational quotes, scripture – as nice as these are, they can bury other posts and make finding marriage posts harder.

  • Admins & Moderators have the final say

    We appreciate that you may feel differently than the admins/mods and may disagree with a decision, but, ultimately, the admins/mods have the final say in this group.

  • No Soliciting

    If you solicit yourselves to others in the group in any way, you will be removed.

    You will not try and fundraise, ask for money, or sell any product or service in this group other than that of Marriage Helper. All others will be removed.

  • Encourage Each Other

    You agree to encourage others, not to tell others or teach others what to do. Any posts where someone is telling someone else what to do or teaching a principle that goes against Marriage Helper’s values will be removed.

  • Tagging Admins

    Admins may be tagged. Please avoid private messaging individual admins if at all possible. All posts should be in the group for the benefit of all and for accountability. Our admins must protect themselves as well. You may message the admin team (this is safer) via the Message button here or by searching for the MH FB Admins and Moderators page on Facebook.

  • Anonymous Posts

    Anonymous Posting should be done sparingly. This creates additional overhead and squelches the sense of community in the group.

If you wish to talk with someone about how Marriage Helper can help your marriage, visit www.MarriageHelper.com or call Marriage Helper’s offices at 866.903.0990.

More About Marriage Helper

In this group, we want people to find support from others in similar situations or people who have fought for their marriage and won! By doing that, we talk about the products and services that MH offers, like our Workshop that has a 77% success rate at saving marriages on the brink of divorce. We also offer an online course called Save My Marriage that helps people whose spouse has disconnected from their marriage and has no desire to save it.

Because this group is run by Marriage Helper, the team at MH reserves the right to filter posts. There are certain things that we do not allow. We’re protective of all of you in this group and of everyone on our team.

That being said, we have limited time and resources. We would prefer to use those resources to help people and give guidance. Therefore, from this point forward there will be a strict zero tolerance policy.

We want to help marriages. We started this group as a complimentary resource. If you would like deeper help or different rules, then consider joining one of our secret groups that are part of our paid online courses.

Thank you all for your hearts and your dedication to saving your marriages.

Abbreviations in the Group

This is a list of abbreviations to help you better navigate the group:

  • AP: Affair Partner
  • CORE: Continuing Our Relationship Essentials (see acronyms)
  • DD: Discovery Day
  • EA: extramarital affair/emotional affair
  • LO: Limerent Object
  • MH: Marriage Helper
  • OW/OM: Other Woman/Other Man
  • PIES: Physical Intellectual Emotional Spiritual (see acronyms)
  • SA/PA: sex/porn addiction/physical affair
  • SC: SMART Contact (see acronyms)
  • SIL/BIL/MIL/FIL: sister/brother/mother/father in law
  • SMM: Save My Marriage
  • SS: Standing Spouse
  • STOP: Safeguards That Offer Protection (see acronyms)
  • W/H: wife/husband
  • WS: Workshop or Wayward Spouse

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Bonus: Acronyms

CORE – aka criteria:

  • C – Continuing
  • O – Our
  • R – Relationship
  • E – Essentials

PIES – the four areas of attraction:

  • P – Physical
  • I – Intellectual
  • E – Emotional
  • S – Spiritual

PUSH Behaviors (usually cause negative emotions) –

  • P – Pleading, Begging, Whining, or trying to Manipulate your spouse.
  • U – Unnecessary Crying.
  • S – Starting Fights.
  • H – Hovering, Tracking, or Trying to Control your spouse.

SMART Contact –

  • S – Stop push behaviors
  • M – Manage “business” items together (aka non-emotional)
  • A – Allow your spouse to start conversations with you
  • R – Respond in a way that is strong, gentle, and calm
  • T – Take it one day at a time

STOP – aka boundaries

  • S – Safeguards
  • T – That
  • O – Offer
  • P – Protection

More Resources:

To call Marriage Helper and talk to a representative about our products or services, please call 615.472.1161 or 866.903.0990.