I casually mentioned a trip my husband and I took to a bed and breakfast and she started sobbing. I reached out and took her hand, waiting until she had calmed down before I asked her to share with me what was wrong. It took a few minutes, but she began sharing some very personal details about her marriage. She later gave me permission to write about what she shared in hope that others might learn from her experience. Read More
No matter your love language, nothing speaks love more deeply than someone who knows your deepest, darkest secrets and yet still believes in you. You, along with every human heart, long to have someone who knows you, flaws and all, and still accepts you and cares for you.
One day I told my husband that I did not love him anymore. There were ten years of hurts and a series of events that led up to that day, but the truth is I did not feel any love for him. Not only did I not feel love, I was beginning to feel hatred. I did not know if I could ever regain the feelings of love that I once had for my husband.
“Our problem,” he said, “is that everyone in my life listens to what I say and does what I tell them. Then I come home and it doesn’t work that way with my wife. I don’t like that.” She didn’t either. The comment was neither unexpected nor unusual.
Marriage and family therapists not only pinpoint a lack of communication as a source of marriage and family unhappiness, they also point out that bad communication in marriage causes unhappiness. To keep that from happening in your marriage, let’s look at some of the things that strong families have learned about good communication.
It's when your spouse comes to you and says: "I love you, but I'm not in love with you." Is it time to panic when you hear that? Actually it may be. I'm not trying to instill fear in you, but we talk about reality, and how you can really face life as it is.
Question: Should I reveal to my husband events from my past, even though I believe he could never find out about them? There is a threefold test I share with people who ask if they should tell their spouses either about their distant past, or about things that they’ve done since their marriages began.