You’re in marriage counseling with your spouse, but maybe it’s not going exactly as you expected.
Maybe it seems to be making things worse instead of better. You saw a lot about marriage counseling and believed that it would help your relationship, but it doesn’t seem to be living up to your expectations.
I believe that there are great things that can come from marriage counseling. Still, the number one thing that people need to understand is that marriage and family therapists; licensed professional counselors, are humans.
You’re not going to get the same experience from one counselor to the next. One person has a different goal for why they’re in counseling, and that becomes an ethical issue for the counselor because the counselor has to decide who the client is. Is it you, your spouse, or the marriage?
Remember and realize that when you’re looking at getting marriage counseling, it is great, number one, that you have decided to get help with something. There is no shame in that. Number two, you can quit a therapist. You do not have to stay with them.
Instead, you can find someone you feel is good at what they do that will approve and encourage your spouse and your marriage. And, no matter what happens with counseling, if your spouse is going to a counselor, if counseling is or isn’t working, you can continuously work on being the best that you can be. We at Marriage Helper want to help you and your relationship become the best they can be.
In this episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam explains what do to when it feels like your marriage counseling does not seem to be helping your relationship.
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At Marriage Helper, we’ve walked alongside thousands of couples and spent decades researching what really works to strengthen marriages. Our goal is to provide you with practical, research-backed guidance—like the free information you’ve found on this page—because we genuinely care about helping marriages thrive. If you’re ready to go deeper, our workshops, membership, and one-on-one coaching offer even more tools, insights, and personalized support to help you navigate your unique journey and create lasting change in your relationship.
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