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Is Fear Holding You Back?
With Kimberly Holmes
Fear As A Child
(0:00) When I was a kid, I was terrified of thunderstorms. That’s probably common for kids, but I had borderline phobia, to the point where I would not go out and do things.
For example, when I was about eight/nine years old, my school was going on an overnight field trip to the Huntsville Space Center. It was going to be great, a ton of fun. But I was so scared that there was going to be this massive tornado that would come and take my home away while I was gone, and I didn’t want to leave my home. So I missed the trip, I didn’t go.
Fear As An Adult
(0:47) Now that I’m much older and I look back on that and think: “How dumb was that of me? How silly was that?” But when I was “in the moment” during that time, I couldn’t see a bigger picture. All I could see was that young mind of mine. I didn’t know much about life, about my future, about how much longer I was going to live. I’d only been on the planet for nine years.
But in that moment I made a decision based on fear and I ended up missing out on something that could have been an amazing experience.
Fear That Holds You Back
(1:20) For you, there might be something going on in your life right now where fear is holding you back from making a decision. From what you can see in your perspective, right now, you are scared to do something because you don’t know what the outcome might be.
So that fear is holding you back from taking any action. What is that for you right now? Maybe you want to start a new job, maybe you want to say something specific to your spouse, or maybe you want to do something with your children, or you want to start volunteering somewhere. I don’t know what that looks like for you, but what is it that fear might be holding you back from? (Because you’re scared of doing something and you don’t know what the outcome would be..)
An Encouragement For You, Today!
(2:05) What I want to encourage you with today is this: do not let your fear make your decisions for you. As one of my best friends tells me all the time, are you leading your emotions or are your emotions leading you?
Too many times, I have to say, I let my emotions lead me. I need to do a better job at taking control of my emotions, taking control of that fear that’s telling me: “I can’t, I shouldn’t, or I won’t,” and I need to do it anyway.
What I have found from the times where I have:
- Faced fear and overcome it
- Done something I was scared to do
- Faced a situation and was afraid of the outcome,
I have always found a greater solution and a greater outcome than the times I backed off of it because I was scared of what might happen.
(2:58) I encourage you today to make decisions based on courage, not make decisions based on fear. What does that look like for you today?
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