Have you ever felt the excitement of new love? When love begins, it’s thrilling, and you think about the person often. You feel happy at the very thought of them. You get butterflies in your stomach, and all you want to do is spend time with them. But is this genuinely love, or is it infatuation? Love vs. infatuation can be a bit confusing. And if it is true love, will it last?
The Chemistry Of Love
Infatuation refers to the early stages of a relationship when the adrenaline is pumping, and chemicals are produced in your brain. And, if the other person feels the same way about you, they’re also creating the same chemicals. That’s why they say that you have chemistry with one another.
You might never understand all the reasons why you’re attracted to someone. But when chemistry does take place, it’s exciting and euphoric. It feels like it’s beyond anything you could have ever imagined. But that feeling doesn’t last long.
Those chemicals that your brain produces start to subside. They might not completely go away, but they’ll never be as high as when you first met the other person. So that infatuation, while intense, fantastic, and wonderful, is relatively short-lived. So can infatuation really be a kind of love? The short answer is yes.
The Long-Term Effects Of Infatuation
In the social sciences, we study love in different ways. For example, we can talk about love that’s called companionate love, romantic love, fatuous love, empty love, passionate love, liking love, and many, many more. Many models have been made of the various types of love, and infatuation is indeed part of love.
The upside is that it feels fantastic. The downside is that it doesn’t last that long. Therefore, if you want a longer-lasting relationship, you can’t stop with the infatuation.
Some sociologists believe that infatuation, or lust, was designed to draw people together. It wasn’t meant to keep people together, though. Because if we stayed in that euphoric state, our productivity would go to practically nothing. That strong chemical desire to spend more time with the person you’re in love with would lead to neglecting things like planting crops and raising animals. If we stayed in that euphoric sensation of infatuation, if it lasted a lifetime, we wouldn’t do those things. We would be so unproductive that the human race couldn’t bear its weight; we wouldn’t have enough to eat or things to sustain us.