So How Do You Win Your Spouse Back?
The best and most direct way to win your wife back is to become the best version of yourself. You can only control yourself in this situation. If you’re willing to look close enough, you’ll probably be able to discover attitudes and behaviors within yourself that are contributing to the problem. So, how do you become the best version of yourself?
Here at Marriage Helper, we focus on what we call the PIES. This is an acronym we have that stands for physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual. So how does this relate to improving yourself? Remember, people don’t leave what they have unless they think there is something better. So becoming a better you physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually will make it harder for your spouse to leave. Or, if she’s already gone, it will make it much easier for her to return.
We encourage you to look at each of these categories individually and rate yourself on a 10-point scale. For example, physically, you might look at things such as weight, how you dress, or even your hygiene. Be honest with yourself. It can be especially hard to be truthful about your physical attributes. Intellectually consider when the last time you read a book was? Are you easy to talk to, a good listener, and can hold a conversation? Emotionally look to ensure you’re not bringing non-marital issues into your marriage. Do you prioritize yourself enough to do things that you enjoy in life? If you’re a religious person, spiritually, are you practicing what you preach? Are you following your beliefs and values and becoming the kind of person you respect and love?
The Work Is Never-Ending
A big key in life is never to stop learning and growing. The same is true in your marriage. Take the scores from your self-evaluation and make a plan to improve the areas you scored low in. Once your wife sees your dedication to improvement, it will open the door to reconciliation. While your improvements might fix part of the issues and entice your wife to stay, be sure that you’re having candid conversations about all the problems in your marriage.
In the end, we hope that avoiding the three most common mistakes and working on your PIES can help you win your wife back. But, in the worst-case scenario, you’re becoming the best you can be for any future relationships you have. And that is worth the hard work.
To find out how to be the best you can be, physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually, check out the Art of Attraction Toolkit.
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