If your spouse has told you “I'm leaving,” it can be one of the most painful things you’ve experienced. And in this article, we’ll give you practical tips to help you thrive in the middle of this time- until you can get back to where you need (and want to be) in your relationship.
If your spouse files for divorce, you might feel lost and confused, not knowing what to do. You might be devastated, angry, or overwhelmed by emotions. Maybe you’re even questioning, "Why should I even try to save my marriage?"
I'm going to share three concepts and three action steps that can help your marriage come together when you experience the loss of a loved one. (These three principles and three action steps apply to all kinds of losses. Whether a couple loses a child, or one spouse loses a family member, or a spouse loses their child and their spouse lost a stepchild.)
Many people have asked, “How can I practice SMART Contact while I’m social distancing?!” In this article, we’ll give you some Social-Distancing-SMART-Contact-Tips so you can have better communication, less marriage tension, and healthy boundaries (whether you’re separated OR stuck at home with your spouse).
It seems like the best marriages are the ones where they say, “We never fight.” Or, that they, “Always get along and always agree.” But we’re here to say that these experiences are not healthy (and, they’re not realistic). You need to have conflict with your spouse, but in a way that DOESN’T destroy your relationship.
Sometimes I think people are looking for the “right words” to pray, kind of like a “magic prayer for God to save their marriage.” But prayer just doesn’t work that way... Maybe you are a believer, looking for some encouragement. Or maybe you aren’t a believer and you are just looking for hope- maybe you heard others talk about prayer and you are desperate enough to try anything right now. No matter which situation you are coming from and no matter what situation your marriage is in, I want to give you some hope.
The other night, as I was pouring a glass of red wine, I asked my husband, “Do you EVER struggle with anxiety?” In a kind of sarcastic tone… It had been one of those days. Which, in this day and age, seems to be every day. Right? The news was all terrible. Social media was a cluster. Everyone was losing their minds… (myself probably included.) The kids’ school had been cancelled for two weeks, there was a lot of noise in the house, and we couldn’t go anywhere because everything was shut down. And my anxiety was THROUGH THE ROOF.
My husband shared a meme with me yesterday which said, “With no sports on TV due to March Sadness. I got to know my wife. She’s actually really nice. Works in the medical field.” We laughed. For a minute. And then I thought… it’s a little too true for comfort. If you’re reading this article on the day we posted it… then you are probably stuck at home, with the rest of America (or half of the world) with your husband or your wife. Quarantined. And even if your marriage is fine, being stuck in a house with your spouse and maybe even your kids for the never-ending foreseeable future can be overwhelming… (and stressful!)
Dr. Joe Beam: Kimberly, I want to talk about one thing today which lends to your area of psychology. When we work with couples who are dealing with marriage difficulties, often we'll find that one, if not both of the spouses, would be depressed. I've actually got a definition here from the American Psychiatric Association website. Let's talk about how it affects relationships and particularly with marriage difficulties. According to the American Psychiatric Association, depression is a major depressive disorder. That seems redundant somehow, doesn't it?
A miscarriage may be one of the most difficult things a couple goes through. It is a loss that ebbs and flows with the waves of grief. In today’s conversation, Marriage Helper CEO, Kimberly Holmes, & Spark of Life Founder, David Mathews, discuss the grief that comes with a miscarriage and how to best care for someone who is experiencing this type of loss.