You may have seen some people out there talking about “No Contact” and you may be wondering, “Is this something I should try for my marriage?” Or maybe you've already been trying “No Contact” and you're puzzled, wondering, “When is it actually going to start working?”
Have you seen Social Media affect your marriage? We definitely have. And while it isn’t going to be what “makes or breaks” a marriage, the habits we create with social media can lead to problems. And in this article, we’ll discuss the top three ways that social media can affect your relationship.
My husband shared a meme with me yesterday which said, “With no sports on TV due to March Sadness. I got to know my wife. She’s actually really nice. Works in the medical field.” We laughed. For a minute. And then I thought… it’s a little too true for comfort. If you’re reading this article on the day we posted it… then you are probably stuck at home, with the rest of America (or half of the world) with your husband or your wife. Quarantined. And even if your marriage is fine, being stuck in a house with your spouse and maybe even your kids for the never-ending foreseeable future can be overwhelming… (and stressful!)
Recently, I interacted with a couple... The wife had a very strong personality and the husband was more laid back. Now that doesn't make her better than him or him worse than her, that's not what we're talking about here. It's just very different temperaments, very different ways of approaching life.
If you're wondering... “How am I supposed to talk to my spouse when they won’t talk to me?” Or, “What do I do when we’re in the middle of a fight, separation, or divorce?” this is for YOU.
Are you living apart from your spouse because of your job? Because of their job? Do you or your spouse work long hours and feel like you don’t see each other often? If you’ve experienced something like this, you know it adds an extra layer of stress to your life and to your marriage.
Here at Marriage Helper, we’ve worked with thousands of couples in many different marriage situations. From control issues, to affairs, to communication issues… whatever the situation may be, we’ve discovered that there are some foundational things that are happening in the majority of marriages we work with. Most of the time, there are behaviors that one spouse is doing that are working against the marriage.
One question we get all the time is, “How do I use SMART Contact if I have kids?” If you and your spouse have a family, the thought of going days or weeks without talking to your spouse is more than painful- it’s scary! You’re not just thinking about you- you’re also thinking about your children… “How is it going to affect them if they don’t hear from their mom or their dad for an extended period of time?” Because children are involved, we want to help you implement SMART Contact in the best way.
The Holidays can be some of the most difficult and lonely times of the year, especially if your spouse is completely disengaged. Maybe your spouse stopped talking to you, or you’re separated, or you’re in the middle of a divorce… Whatever your situation may be, SMART Contact is the BEST way to communicate with your spouse, no matter what has happened. If anything works to bring back your spouse and get them to open up, this will.
It’s the time where the “most wonderful time of the year” becomes the “most stressful time of the year.” It’s the Holiday Season. (Think: Parties, parties, and more Holiday parties.) You can definitely be overwhelmed by the sheer amount of things going on. You want the Holidays to be a good experience where you can create and reminisce upon sweet memories. The pressure is ON.