You probably never meant for it to happen. It’s not as if you went looking for a lover. However, once you fell in love with someone else other than your spouse, things got rather intense. You’re already in what some refer to as an emotional affair. Perhaps you've gone further and the relationship has turned physical.
It’s a helpless, frustrating feeling that consumes your mind and ravages your heart. It steals your sleep. You desperately want to know how to save your marriage, but you have no answers. You don't even know if it’s possible to save your marriage if your spouse wants out.
It's like the kiss of death. It's when your spouse comes to you and says: "I love you, but I'm not in love with you." Is it time to panic when you hear that? Actually it may be. I'm not trying to instill fear in you, but we talk about reality, and how you can really face life as it is.
You are not quite sure how you got yourself into the affair, and even less sure about how to end an affair. You love your paramour but hate the sneaking and cheating. You vacillate between ending the affair and giving yourself totally to it. You feel intense emotions for your lover, but even as you tell yourself, or your lover, that everything is going to be wonderful, deep within a small voice says that it will not be.