Are you wondering what to do if you suspect that your spouse is in an affair? Perhaps there's something shady going on, or you've read something, or seen something. Or, maybe it's just a feeling... an intuition or suspicion. If you’re in this situation, I want to provide some practical next steps as well as a few things to consider. But no matter what, one of the most important things you can start with, right now, is to realize there is hope.
If you’re reading this article, you may be thinking about ending your affair. But on the other hand, you might be thinking, “There's no way on earth. I'm not about to end this thing. I'm happier than I've ever been.” I still ask that you listen to these three reasons for ending an affair.
When you have a spouse that’s cheating, it can be completely overwhelming because you don't even know where to start. The questions to ask. Your heart is hurting. You're scared. There are so many emotions that go into that.
Limerence is the feeling of being madly in love, but is it true love or a chemically produced feeling that doesn't produce a long term relationship? Dr. Beam discusses these topics and related details in this informative video.
You probably never meant for it to happen. It’s not as if you went looking for a lover. However, once you fell in love with someone else other than your spouse, things got rather intense. You’re already in what some refer to as an emotional affair. Perhaps you've gone further and the relationship has turned physical.
It's like the kiss of death. It's when your spouse comes to you and says: "I love you, but I'm not in love with you." Is it time to panic when you hear that? Actually it may be. I'm not trying to instill fear in you, but we talk about reality, and how you can really face life as it is.
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You are not quite sure how you got yourself into the affair, and even less sure about how to end an affair. You love your paramour but hate the sneaking and cheating. You vacillate between ending the affair and giving yourself totally to it. You feel intense emotions for your lover, but even as you tell yourself, or your lover, that everything is going to be wonderful, deep within a small voice says that it will not be.