3 Step Plan To Get Your Ex Back
If you want to know what you can do to get your ex back, then this is for you. Whether you’re separated or divorced, I’m going to teach you a three-step formula you can follow in order to do the best things you can do to get your ex back.
Even if you’re not married, these principles still apply. However, I’m specifically talking to those who are in a married relationship.
We are passionate about saving marriages, and we believe that marriages can (and should) be saved. We believe more marriages have the ability to be saved than most people believe. To stop the divorce from happening, or to undo a divorce that’s already happened.
“More marriages have the ability to be saved than most people believe.”
We believe it because we see it every single day. Even with the marriage is that everyone else has given up on…
- Even if a divorce has happened
- If you’re already separated
- If everyone has told you that there’s no hope…
Then this is the exact system, the exact three-part-formula you need to follow.
*Remember, all our resources are based on research and scientific principles. Not only is it backed by social science, it has worked in the lives of thousands of people. Many of those who have gone through our online courses and our workshops will say, “if anything works, this will.”
So, without further ado, here’s the three-step process: stop, start and pause. Let me explain what each of those means…
Stop The Push Behaviors
The first one is stop. If you’re divorced or separated and want your ex to come back, it’s likely that you’ve done a “push” behavior.
What is a “push” behavior?
A push behavior is begging, pleading, whining, crying, or doing whatever you can to try to get your spouse to stay.
- Trying to control them to stay
- Hacking into their Facebook
- Attempting to check their email
- Trying to get their phone in the middle of the night, to see what might be going on… etc.
Any controlling/pushy behaviors to try to get your spouse to stay classify as push behaviors.
It could even include:
- Saying slight things on social media to try and get their attention or make them feel guilty
- Trying the FOMO thing where you upload pictures of “living your best life” so your spouse can see what they’re missing out on… thinking they’ll want to come home.
If any of these are your intention/motivation we would classify it as a push behavior. You’re trying to “push” your spouse to do something that at this time they don’t want to do. And it’s going to backfire. It’s going to work against you in the long run.
A push behavior is “trying to ‘push’ your spouse to do something that at this time they don’t want to do.”
So stop the begging, pleading, whining or doing whatever you can do to get your spouse to stay. And instead, start SMART Contact™.
Start Practicing SMART Contact™
We created SMART Contact at Marriage Helper because thousands of people didn’t know how to act toward their spouse after they left. They would use push behaviors, or contact their spouse every single day, or they would ignore their spouse. Neither of these principles work!
That’s why we started teaching SMART Contact. It teaches you how to be smart in reaching out/communicating with your ex-spouse or separated spouse. It’s the smartest thing you can do.
- Get the SMART Contact Toolkit to learn the BEST way to communicate with a disengaged spouse