Dealing With a Spouse’s Affair
Don’t know how to deal with your spouse’s current or past affair? Here’s how to understand what has happened, know what you need to do next, forgive, and rebuild trust.
Don’t know how to deal with your spouse’s current or past affair? Here’s how to understand what has happened, know what you need to do next, forgive, and rebuild trust.
Most people have never even heard of the word “limerence.” But if someone has heard of it, they probably ignored it because it didn't seem to make any sense. Limerence is a feeling of being madly in love with someone. It is a euphoric sensation that has no comparison.
It's when your spouse comes to you and says: "I love you, but I'm not in love with you." Is it time to panic when you hear that? Actually it may be. I'm not trying to instill fear in you, but we talk about reality, and how you can really face life as it is.
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You suspected it long before you knew it for sure. Your spouse changed but you couldn’t quite explain the changes in a way that seemed to make sense to anyone else. You thought that you were imagining things, being insecure in thinking your spouse had someone else.
It started as a short post on Twitter. It [...]
Based on my work with thousands of marriages, I offer the following suggestions for those who fear their spouses are cheating.
“People tell me I should divorce her. Forget her. Find someone else. She admits she was in love with the guy...but she says it’s over and she wants to make our marriage work. Asked me to forgive her. I don’t know if I can. Am I a fool to consider staying with her? Could I ever believe she really loves me? Will I ever quit thinking about the two of them together? What if he tries to get her back? Could I trust her not to go? Can I ever trust her again about anything? He paused, dropped his chin and said, “Part of me wants to walk away. Part of me wants what we had before. I don’t know what to do.” Click here to read.
Yesterday I talked with another wife emotionally involved with an [...]