How To Tell A Good Marriage Counselor From A Useless One
The short answer
A useless marriage counselor gives up on the marriage, like the therapist who ended a session once he learned of an affair, or the one who told each spouse to follow their own path to happiness. Good marriage counselors do exist, but they are not always easy to find. In this episode, Dr. Joe gives specific suggestions for telling a good counselor from a useless or harmful one.
Key takeaways
- Many couples say a counselor made their marriage worse, from ending a session when an affair came up to telling each spouse to follow their own path.
- Good marriage counselors exist, but they are not always easy to find.
- Dr. Joe Beam explains how to tell a helpful counselor from a useless one, or from one who harms your marriage.
- Whether you are unhappy with your current counselor or looking for the first time, the episode gives specific ways to find the right one.
We hear the stories all to often.
“We went to a counselor about our marriage and it was the biggest mistake every. She helped alright; helped destroy our marriage!”
“As soon as the therapist discovered my husband was involved with someone else, he told us that he couldn’t help us. That was it. Session over. My husband said, ‘See, there’s no help for us’ and went to the other woman. Are there any counselors out there who actually help people in our situation?”
“Turns out our counselor had the philosophy that each of us should be happy and if that wasn’t together, we should follow our own individual paths to happiness. What a load of crap from a so-called marriage counselor.”
Are there good marriage counselors out there? Yes. Are they always easy to find? No.
In this program Joe Beam offers suggestions on how to tell a good marriage counselor from one who is useless and from those who are destructive to your marriage. Be sure to have something ready to take notes. Of course, you can listen to the program again later to pick up the nuances you may have missed.
Whether you have a counselor that you aren’t thrilled with or are looking for a marriage counselor for the first time, this program will give you specific suggestions to help find the right one.
Common questions
Are there good marriage counselors out there?
Yes, but they are not always easy to find. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam gives specific suggestions for telling a good marriage counselor from a useless one, or from one who is destructive to your marriage.
What should I do if our marriage counselor made things worse?
You are not alone; many couples describe counselors who said each spouse should simply follow their own path to happiness. Whether you have a counselor you aren’t thrilled with or are looking for the first time, this program gives specific suggestions to help you find the right one.
Can a marriage counselor help if my spouse is having an affair?
Some will not. One wife says her therapist ended the session as soon as he learned her husband was involved with someone else, so it matters to choose carefully and know what to look for.