You are not quite sure how you got yourself into the affair, and even less sure about how to end an affair. You love your paramour but hate the sneaking and cheating. You vacillate between ending the affair and giving yourself totally to it. You feel intense emotions for your lover, but even as you tell yourself, or your lover, that everything is going to be wonderful, deep within a small voice says that it will not be.
Though limerence by its very nature is relatively short-lived (typically lasting somewhere between 3 months and 36 months) it is a very real and intense emotion/feeling. When a person decides to leave a limerent relationship, or if they are the one abandoned by the other, the emotions don't immediately disappear. READ MORE