Are you wondering what to do if you suspect that your spouse is in an affair? Perhaps there's something shady going on, or you've read something, or seen something. Or, maybe it's just a feeling... an intuition or suspicion. If you’re in this situation, I want to provide some practical next steps as well as a few things to consider. But no matter what, one of the most important things you can start with, right now, is to realize there is hope.
If you’re reading this article, you may be thinking about ending your affair. But on the other hand, you might be thinking, “There's no way on earth. I'm not about to end this thing. I'm happier than I've ever been.” I still ask that you listen to these three reasons for ending an affair.
When you have a spouse that’s cheating, it can be completely overwhelming because you don't even know where to start. The questions to ask. Your heart is hurting. You're scared. There are so many emotions that go into that.
Limerence is the feeling of being madly in love, but is it true love or a chemically produced feeling that doesn't produce a long term relationship? Dr. Beam discusses these topics and related details in this informative video.
You probably never meant for it to happen. It’s not as if you went looking for a lover. However, once you fell in love with someone else other than your spouse, things got rather intense. You’re already in what some refer to as an emotional affair. Perhaps you've gone further and the relationship has turned physical.
It was so powerful that you gave up your marriage for it… Your dream is now a nightmare. You gave up everything you needed to give up to acquire this one rare jewel and now the jewel has moved beyond your grasp. You feel out of control. Lost. Miserable.
Though limerence by its very nature is relatively short-lived (typically lasting somewhere between 3 months and 36 months) it is a very real and intense emotion/feeling. When a person decides to leave a limerent relationship, or if they are the one abandoned by the other, the emotions don't immediately disappear. READ MORE