I’m In Love With Another Man, A Wife’s Story- The Dr. Joe Show Podcast
The short answer
Being married and in love with another man can bring overwhelming grief and helplessness, even after you end it. In this episode of The Dr. Joe Show, a wife who ended things with a man she worked for and asked her husband to move back shares how she still cried every day four months later, and what limerence feels like from the inside.
Key takeaways
- Ending an affair does not switch off the feelings; this wife still felt as much in love four months after she ended it.
- The grief that follows can be daily and overwhelming, and she described a helplessness she would not wish on anyone.
- What she describes is limerence, the intense, “madly in love” state Dr. Joe teaches about.
- Hearing someone describe limerence from the inside helps explain how it begins and why it has such a strong hold.
What does it feel like? How does a person get into this situation? Why does she love a man other than her husband?
In this program, a brave woman who is with her husband but still “deeply in love” with another man tells her story. She is willing to answer questions and talk about her situation.
She wrote, “I have been madly in love with a man I work for four years now and even though I ended things in March and asked my husband to move back, I still feel as much in love as ever. Not a single day has gone by in four months that I haven’t cried missing him and then feel overwhelming grief…I wouldn’t wish this feeling of helplessness on my worst enemy!”
Because of the sensitivity of this program, and to protect her from callers who may not be kind, no calls will be taken during this program. Instead, you can ask your question or make your comment by emailing AskJoe@MarriageHelper.com before the show airs. (Make sure your comments or questions are emailed at least one hour before the program begins at 9 p.m. Central time.)
If you are a regular listener to this program, you’ve heard Dr. Beam discuss limerence. In this program you will hear from someone in limerence with another person than her husband about how it feels, how it begins, and how strong an impact it has.
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Common questions
Why do I still love another man after ending things?
What you’re feeling may be limerence. The wife in this episode ended things in March and asked her husband to move back, yet four months later she said she felt as much in love as ever.
Is it normal to grieve after ending an affair?
The wife in this episode said not a single day had gone by in four months without crying and missing him, followed by overwhelming grief. She described it as a helplessness she wouldn’t wish on her worst enemy.
What is limerence?
Limerence is the term Dr. Joe uses for being intensely, “madly” in love with someone, the way this wife is with a man other than her husband. In this episode she explains how it feels, how it begins and how strong an impact it has.