You are not quite sure how you got yourself into the affair, and even less sure about how to end an affair. You love your paramour but hate the sneaking and cheating. You vacillate between ending the affair and giving yourself totally to it. You feel intense emotions for your lover, but even as you tell yourself, or your lover, that everything is going to be wonderful, deep within a small voice says that it will not be.
You suspected it long before you knew it for sure.Your spouse changed but you couldn’t quite explain the changes in a way that seemed to make sense to anyone else. You thought that you were imagining things, being insecure in thinking your spouse had someone else.