I’ll be honest with you, your family and friends love you- and want the very best for you! Because of this, their advice (although well intended) usually does not provide the objectivity you need.
And, much of what they say may be rooted in their own experiences or experiences they’ve heard from others… and this is why getting help from an outside, unbiased perspective can help so much!
A marriage helper coach will give you objective feedback based on thousands of hours of working with marriages like yours.