You want to save your marriage…but you have no idea where to start.

You constantly worry, “What can I do? Can I say the right thing or find some miracle that will save my marriage? I know I was told to stop trying, but I don’t want to give up…”

What makes it worse is that the departing spouse is right when she says that you’re trying to save the marriage pushes her away. It usually does. She will get more aggravated with you, become meaner in what she says, and find a faster way out if you keep trying.

Does that mean there is no hope? Should you give up and accept that it’s over?

No.

“Well,” you might be thinking, “if there is hope and I shouldn’t accept it’s over, are there magic words, some amazing thing that I can do that will suddenly and miraculously change my mate’s mind?”

No.

Did I just contradict myself?

Allow me to explain…