Are you really struggling with just letting go? You pray about it daily and really try to make a conscious effort, but you feel like you’re failing at it. If you could just control your spouse, their decisions, the outcome, or anything about the situation…you would in an instance. So how do we let go? Here is a key concept on how to truly begin to let go.
Letting go is another way to say, “accept it as it is”. When you admit to yourself that something is beyond your personal control and then accept that as an unchangeable fact, you truly then “let go”. Why? Because you stop trying to figure how you’re going to make it different. Acceptance is key.
Accepting things is also a major component of a joyful life. You may not like it. You may not want it. But when you accept it, you begin to have peace inside which will then begin to exude on the outside.
Not feeling responsible (which you do if you are still trying to figure out what will change things) is extremely freeing.
Remember, accepting things as they are doesn’t mean you like things as they are, or that you don’t care. It means giving up the idea that somehow…you can change it. It means giving up the idea that if you harass God long enough, He’ll change it.
If anything is going to change, it usually happens after we STOP trying to change everyone and everything; and instead, change ourselves.