So, you stopped contacting your spouse. And now you're trying this thing called “No Contact” to try and get your spouse back. You're trying it to get them to see what they’re missing. You hope that they'll want you back and that they will come crawling back to you… Or at least, that's what you've heard.
When we at first called it No Contact, as a way of getting your spouse back, we didn't anticipate how people would hear those words over the other things we said about the principle. Allow me to explain:
She didn’t hesitate a moment. Yes, she wanted to save her marriage. She and her husband were 40ish, married about twenty years, with a couple of children. One evening he told her he was in love with his assistant, that he already had a lawyer, and suggested she procure one for herself.