Do you need a marriage reset to keep your relationship on the right track?

We can help.

Things aren’t bad in your marriage, but they’re just okay. Today, we are throwing okay out the window.

We’ll show you how to have the marriage you want and deserve for a lifetime of happiness. In this mini-course, you will learn 3 New Year’s resolutions for a better marriage or if you just need change.

Raise your hand if this is you:

Sometimes it feels like your spouse doesn’t love you from their actions?
You don’t feel like your spouse is attracted to you
You want to connect more with your partner, but you’re not sure how?

What WON’T Work – Doing Nothing. Ignoring the situation never works.

These 3 tips will change the way you see yourself and your relationship.

This marriage resolution tip will help you and your spouse recognize the amazing qualities you both have.

It’s easy for a married couple to go from loving everything about each other to only seeing their negatives. The little things get so aggravating, and those fantastic qualities that you once loved in your spouse seem to have mysteriously disappeared. Have you ever thought that maybe your marriage issues are deeper than you think? Perhaps you’ve forgotten the way to appreciate each other.

If you focus on all the things you wish would change about your spouse…if you look for them to do something WRONG more than you look for them to do something right…you have the motivation to believe your relationship could be different.

“Knowing that we are loved for who we are allows us to grow into the healthiest of people.”

We don’t mean hitting the gym for 6 pack abs or stepping out like you’re on the cover of a magazine. Most people don’t know that attraction is so much deeper than that. You need to work on your PIES.

P = physical
I = intellectual
E = emotional
S = spiritual

Those are the four general ways that we are attracted to another person.

If your New Year’s Resolution has ever been to feel more confident, loved, wanted, or just feel amazing in your skin.

These four attraction areas will bring you closer to your spouse and make you more attractive for yourself, your friends, and your family.

Physical Attraction:
Your spouse was attracted to you physically, once upon a time. Just because you can’t be 21 again doesn’t mean you can’t be the best you physically for your age and lifestyle.

Intellectual Attraction:
Learn how to stimulate your spouse’s mind.
Connect in a way to understand your spouse on a deeper level and find new ways to learn.
Take class, start a new hobby, or find an interest you both share.

Emotional attraction:
This happens when a person makes us feel good about ourselves. They make us laugh, feel special, feel safe, or enjoy any other emotion. When you talk with your spouse, engage in discussions that involve both your minds instead of your problems. Bring out those positive emotions you both felt at the beginning of your relationship.

Spiritual Attraction:
The beliefs and values that a person holds. We are drawn toward people with the same ideas and values similar to ours.

Be the best you that you’ve ever been.

Healthy conflict does exist.

Arguing with your spouse doesn’t mean there is something wrong, and never arguing doesn’t mean there’s something right.

Learn healthy ways to agree or disagree with your spouse as a New Year’s resolution. Learning the art of conversation is the recipe for success as you know how to compromise without overreacting or feeling resentment for your spouse. Typically, a more profound issue is involved when you have frequent heated arguments with your spouse.

Maybe you avoid conflict because you don’t like it. Or perhaps you don’t feel safe enough to voice your feelings or opinions.

Whatever the reason, avoiding conflict causes you to mask your feelings and stuff them down instead.

The SMART contact toolkit is the best first thing you can do when your spouse wants out to stabilize your situation around.  It doesn’t look back to everything that happened, it stops future damage from occurring, and allows you to have healthy conversations. Even the hard ones.