I'm going to share three concepts and three action steps that can help your marriage come together when you experience the loss of a loved one. (These three principles and three action steps apply to all kinds of losses. Whether a couple loses a child, or one spouse loses a family member, or a spouse loses their child and their spouse lost a stepchild.)
So, you stopped contacting your spouse. And now you're trying this thing called “No Contact” to try and get your spouse back. You're trying it to get them to see what they’re missing. You hope that they'll want you back and that they will come crawling back to you… Or at least, that's what you've heard.
When you have a spouse that’s cheating, it can be completely overwhelming because you don't even know where to start. The questions to ask. Your heart is hurting. You're scared. There are so many emotions that go into that.
Let me guess... your spouse is cold and distant. You feel like everything revolves around what your spouse wants. Your spouse may seemingly lack empathy or an awareness of how his or her reactions affect others. The list goes on and on. In fact, when you Google these things, everything you read points to the fact that your spouse is a narcissist...
“No Contact” is a phenomenon that a ton of people (especially on YouTube) are talking about. It's getting a lot of attention... but it's not something you want to do for your marriage.
So, if you’re wondering, “What do I do when SMART Contact isn't working?” you've come to the right place! In this article, I’ll explain the top two reasons why SMART Contact isn't working. And, I'm going to share with you two ways that you may be doing SMART Contact wrong. (Especially if you say it's “not working.”)
Let me ask you a question... When you think of your home, what is the feeling that comes to mind? Is it a feeling of peace, calmness, of excitement? Of a place that you want to be? Or, when you think about your home, is it something that stresses you out? Is it something that maybe gives you a little bit of anxiety?
You may have seen some people out there talking about “No Contact” and you may be wondering, “Is this something I should try for my marriage?” Or maybe you've already been trying “No Contact” and you're puzzled, wondering, “When is it actually going to start working?”
You have the ability to make different choices today. Even if you got off track once.. or twice.. or even seven times, you have the ability to get back on track. You can do this. You can stay on track even when life is trying to throw things at you.