Have you seen Social Media affect your marriage? We definitely have. And while it isn’t going to be what “makes or breaks” a marriage, the habits we create with social media can lead to problems. And in this article, we’ll discuss the top three ways that social media can affect your relationship.
Many people have asked, “How can I practice SMART Contact while I’m social distancing?!” In this article, we’ll give you some Social-Distancing-SMART-Contact-Tips so you can have better communication, less marriage tension, and healthy boundaries (whether you’re separated OR stuck at home with your spouse).
It IS possible to stand for your marriage alone. Now, it might seem impossible, it might seem crazy, (and you might not know where to start) but it can just take one spouse wanting to save the marriage to actually start saving the marriage. But what more can you do? Where do you start!?
It seems like the best marriages are the ones where they say, “We never fight.” Or, that they, “Always get along and always agree.” But we’re here to say that these experiences are not healthy (and, they’re not realistic). You need to have conflict with your spouse, but in a way that DOESN’T destroy your relationship.
Sometimes I think people are looking for the “right words” to pray, kind of like a “magic prayer for God to save their marriage.” But prayer just doesn’t work that way... Maybe you are a believer, looking for some encouragement. Or maybe you aren’t a believer and you are just looking for hope- maybe you heard others talk about prayer and you are desperate enough to try anything right now. No matter which situation you are coming from and no matter what situation your marriage is in, I want to give you some hope.
The other night, as I was pouring a glass of red wine, I asked my husband, “Do you EVER struggle with anxiety?” In a kind of sarcastic tone… It had been one of those days. Which, in this day and age, seems to be every day. Right? The news was all terrible. Social media was a cluster. Everyone was losing their minds… (myself probably included.) The kids’ school had been cancelled for two weeks, there was a lot of noise in the house, and we couldn’t go anywhere because everything was shut down. And my anxiety was THROUGH THE ROOF.
My husband shared a meme with me yesterday which said, “With no sports on TV due to March Sadness. I got to know my wife. She’s actually really nice. Works in the medical field.” We laughed. For a minute. And then I thought… it’s a little too true for comfort. If you’re reading this article on the day we posted it… then you are probably stuck at home, with the rest of America (or half of the world) with your husband or your wife. Quarantined. And even if your marriage is fine, being stuck in a house with your spouse and maybe even your kids for the never-ending foreseeable future can be overwhelming… (and stressful!)
Dr. Joe Beam: Kimberly, I want to talk about one thing today which lends to your area of psychology. When we work with couples who are dealing with marriage difficulties, often we'll find that one, if not both of the spouses, would be depressed. I've actually got a definition here from the American Psychiatric Association website. Let's talk about how it affects relationships and particularly with marriage difficulties. According to the American Psychiatric Association, depression is a major depressive disorder. That seems redundant somehow, doesn't it?
Recently, I interacted with a couple... The wife had a very strong personality and the husband was more laid back. Now that doesn't make her better than him or him worse than her, that's not what we're talking about here. It's just very different temperaments, very different ways of approaching life.
A miscarriage may be one of the most difficult things a couple goes through. It is a loss that ebbs and flows with the waves of grief. In today’s conversation, Marriage Helper CEO, Kimberly Holmes, & Spark of Life Founder, David Mathews, discuss the grief that comes with a miscarriage and how to best care for someone who is experiencing this type of loss.