When a married person with strong values winds up in a limerent relationship with another person, it leads to cognitive dissonance. In that state, the person is emotionally and mentally miserable because their actions are in disharmony with their beliefs and values.
It can be frightening and frustrating. You believe, or are completely convinced, that your spouse is cheating on you... yet, you don’t have enough proof to absolutely know. In this video, we’ll share a roadmap for you to assess whether or not it’s likely that your spouse is cheating. And, we’ll tell you what you can do moving forward. We want to preface this by saying: be wise. Don’t immediately think an affair is happening if one of the things we mention is going on. Rather, make sure you read through and evaluate all of the options.
When our kids hurt, we hurt. If you’re watching this video, it’s likely that your child’s marriage is in trouble, and as a parent, you want to help them get through this hard time. You don’t want to do the WRONG thing, but still feel like you need to do SOMETHING. We’re here to help. We will explain three things you should NOT do, and three things you SHOULD do if your child’s marriage is in trouble.
EVERYONE should have fights in their marriage. (Okay, we know this sounds pretty shocking, but there’s a reason why we say this.) Here’s the thing, conflict in a marriage is healthy when you feel secure enough to disagree with your spouse. And the truth is, fights do not ruin your marriage. The failure to reconnect AFTER a fight is what can ruin your marriage.
There are some MAJOR misconceptions about what attraction is and why it matters. Often, attraction is seen as a physical connection or draw to someone...but it’s actually so much more than that. With the thousands of couples we’ve worked with, our principle about attraction helped them transform themselves AND their marriage.
You are not quite sure how you got yourself into the affair, and even less sure about how to end an affair. You love your paramour but hate the sneaking and cheating. You vacillate between ending the affair and giving yourself totally to it. You feel intense emotions for your lover, but even as you tell yourself, or your lover, that everything is going to be wonderful, deep within a small voice says that it will not be.
You suspected it long before you knew it for sure.Your spouse changed but you couldn’t quite explain the changes in a way that seemed to make sense to anyone else. You thought that you were imagining things, being insecure in thinking your spouse had someone else.